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It's not rude, it's dehumanizing. Slightly worse, right?

Lmao I was thinking that you mean they and was so fucking confused for a while thinking how rude I've been for YEARS.

I started using they after 2 years accidentally misgendering a colleague from another country because it looked like she had a beard in Teams profile picture

I understand not wanting to ask everyone all the time, but defaulting to a neutral pronoun isn't going to become the norm unless people start using it even when it isn't the norm. That said, it does feel a lot less natural in Ukrainian and Russian to me, so I'm still trying to figure out the best option there. But in English, singular "they" is pretty widespread already, I think.

This is why the universal language should be Indonesian. No gendered words, no pronouns, heck there's even no tenses. By the way, you also pronounce the words the way it was written like Latin so there's no confusion on how to pronounce the words. The grammar is also straightforward enough you can just grab a dictionary and start speaking coherent Indonesian.

While I don't care about the gender crap (use what ever), I appreciate having a different pronoun for people or conscious things vs objects of any kind. They/them still holds info over it/that.

I admit I am a poisoned well, though. I was taught 'it' is outright disrespectful. Even before I knew LGBTQ+ anything, so it implicitly doesn't apply to people, IMO.

Jumping down someone's throat about it is stupid - unless they're being malicious, then jump away and tear whomever a new one. They aren't technically wrong, though. "They" is an ideal word that's been correct in both the singular and plural sense for centuries. Given more recent social developments, it's an easy way to be inclusive and not "risk" being wrong.

(I'm assuming you used literally "he/she" to refer to someone of unknown gender)

I see where they're coming from. They is way safer in general. Covers people who are male, female, non binary or others. That being said reddit does have a problem with being unable to educate people. They immediately have to just insult and yell at you for it. I don't get it. It's just way easier to be polite. Takes effort to get angry and yell at someone. This is why I generally make only positive or jokey comments.

You would have thought things would change after reddit abused a family after the Boston bombing but nope. Same toxicity at an all time high.

i vote for "it" makes it unified for everything, ties it neatly up.