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[–] dingleberry@discuss.tchncs.de 188 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Let's not start the cult of /r/nofap here. And no, you are not suddenly more charismatic and confident. You are just not reeking of cum all the time, something achievable with regular showers as well.

[–] 13esq@lemmy.world 102 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No fap is retarded, but watching less porn isn't. You can do pretty much anything you can imagine to excess.

[–] PrivateNoob@sopuli.xyz 42 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The no fap community is definitely overexxagarating the pros of not masturbating, but in it's core they are supporting a healthy cause. Never been an r/nofap guys but they definitely helped me a bit to stop my porn addiction.

[–] Sodis@feddit.de 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You can masturbate without porn, also helps with imagination.

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[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Anything that practices self-control and self-discipline is usually a good thing.

[–] criitz@reddthat.com 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not really, the whole nofap community was a kind of incel cult

[–] tdawg@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

All things in moderation. Including moderation

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[–] lyam23@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Nofap and celibacy cults are pretty toxic, but there is some virtue in self restraint.

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[–] June@lemm.ee 84 points 1 year ago (5 children)

If it just takes a month to break, it’s not an addiction. It’s a habit.

Really hate the way that the word addiction is watered down by people who just look at porn a lot.

[–] Zikeji@programming.dev 26 points 1 year ago

To be fair, everyone handles habits and addictions differently.

[–] digdilem@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'd like to agree with you, but I don't think there are fixed periods where stopping something turns it from being addiction into habit.

Addiction is an inability to stop using a substance or engaging in a behavior even though it may cause psychological or physical harm.

I think porn can come within that definition, just as much as smoking or drinking can be called a habit.

[–] June@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

And I’m saying that what’s described in the OP is a habit, not an addiction.

‘Addiction’ is very overused when it comes to porn because people don’t have any concept of what addiction actually is. Half the time the harm doesn’t come from looking at porn, it comes from the purity culture that we’re inundated with in western society. Being abused by puritanical ideology does not make looking at porn an addiction. Neither does having a strong sex drive that makes us want to engage with sexual content.

[–] CheeseBread@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Porn addiction is real, and watching porn can have more harm than just puritanical bullshit. Most people that I've watched looking at porn don't just find a video a watch it start to finish. They watch multiple videos, fast forwarding to their favorite parts. Delayed gratification is good for you. Also, porn doesn't accurately depict what sex is like. It can give you fucked up expectations of what sex should be.

If you watch so much porn that you can't have an orgasm without watching it, if you are only aroused by porn that can't exist in real life, if you stop having sex with a partner to instead only masturbate to porn, if you find yourself constantly watching porn even at inappropriate times, if the amount of porn you watch decreases your quality of life... That's addiction.

I think that masturbating is healthy and good for human sexuality, but I think a lot of people could benefit from masturbating differently. Try reading or using your imagination or even just masturbating meditatively, focusing on sensations.

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[–] psycho_driver@lemmy.world 81 points 1 year ago (39 children)

Masturbating is good for you. Stop self harming.

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[–] match@pawb.social 25 points 1 year ago

The Goonless

[–] ConstantPain@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don't masturbate because I'm horny. I masturbate because I'm bored.

[–] Rayuza@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I masturbate because im horny and bored

[–] GCostanzaStepOnMe@feddit.de 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I masturbate because there's nothing else to do on the train.

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[–] BoiLudens@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] DrQuint@lemm.ee 12 points 1 year ago

If you don't masturbate, you become reimu?

[–] grey@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 1 year ago

Good for him.

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