Sorry you have to deal with that. Really sucks living with an abusive narcissist
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Thanks comrade. My other option is to be homeless and y'know I really don't want that.
I also don't want you to be homeless. Although by certain more broad (and I think more accurate) definitions of being unhoused, you might count. If you're stuck with an abuser because of a disability or financial situation that should, and sometimes does, count as being unhoused.
If you're stuck with an abuser because of a disability or financial situation that should, and sometimes does, count as being unhoused.
I wonder if that could count me into getting some kind of financial help 
was thinking again about applying for SNAP but I was putting it off because I don't want the disappointment of getting denied again.
Depends on where you live. I know in chicago there are definitely orgs that would help but we're, despite a lot of bad, fairly progressive with stuff like this. Also with stuff like SNAP you gotta apply every month for as many months as it takes. That's unfortunately how it works. It sucks and it is absolutely designed to be hard to use
It sucks and it is absolutely designed to be hard to use
That's what happened to me the last time. I got denied because I live at home, and it's like what do I need to be literally homeless and destitute to qualify for a meek $200 every month in groceries?
You can apply as a separate household living within the same living space. As long as you don't pool resources(meaning buy and prepare food together), your household is one person. Of course they have no way to tell what you're doing.
The only tricky bit is you need to fill out a shared housing form that details the relationship between you and whoever lives there with you if you're not on the lease.
Sorry to hear about this.
I’m not serious about this, but part of me thinks “he’s clearly incapable of managing his financial shit online, OP should just start taking his money and blaming stupid websites…since they’re gonna get blamed anyway”
I have used his card before to buy meds for myself, I figure when he asks I'll just feign ignorance over it. Gotta be careful and make it look like an honest mistake tho.
That’s fair to me. Also it’s for meds, which I’d assume he would at least want you to have, even if he’s self-absorbed and obnoxious (unless he also hates medication, therapy, etc, which I hope is not the case).
(unless he also hates medication, therapy, etc, which I hope is not the case).
He does! He thinks I'm looking for sympathy/being lazy for having mental health issues :yea:
Ah classic I guess. Sucks, but an unfortunately prevalent mindset in that generation (my parents are also fairly skeptical about it, never having had access to it themselves).
Long story short he needed to use my computer today for his IRA bullshit
I thought "Irish Republican Army" first and got really confused
What a petulant manchild. Sorry you have to live with that
What a petulant manchild.
He is, it's exhausting to have to act like an adult while he can wild out as much as he wants.