LGBTQ+

Eww, allocishets. Don't give us cooties! /s

Not really sure what you expect. Queer people generally are probably going to be more comfortable around similar queer people because they are probably safer around them and don't have to deal with weird tiptoeing around things like:

to her/them although she/they told me she/they partially identified as nonbinary (correct pronoun usage pls >.<) but I don’t know if all this is the classic “but i have a black friend” argument that racists use.

where they may have good intentions and all, but make things a bit awkward by over-focusing on it (and also may come off as being more worried about how others perceive them than actually caring about the other people sometimes).

If you're respectful to others, you're good.

Generally, I'm really careful about forming an opinion about people without knowing more about them. Each person deserves to be judged by their individual character and actions, not by the group they belong to.

If I'm being honest, the only thing that would be strange to me is why wouldn't you consider yourself an ally? It sounds like there are are a lot of important people in your life who are LGBT. I guess if you're wondering about perception, someone who has a lot of queer friends but doesn't want to stand up for them usually rings alarm bells in the LGBT community. Not saying that's you, just in general.

But I will say from personal experience, allies are like gold for me. Love them all to death.

And no worries, I feel like it's a respectful question. Hope you can keep learning!