I'm 27 and sometimes I don't feel like an adult. I don't have a job, I live with my parents (even though it's not as taboo here in my country), and I feel more like an older brother to my nephew instead of the uncle I really am.
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I'm in my 40s and married with a kid and I'll be the first to admit that I'm winging it. We're all just that same little kid we were but in an adult body trying to figure out the world. I did get called sir by a younger co-worker and I made them swear to never say it again. Just call me dude or something lol
Yeah, but only because my joints hurt if I do anything remotely exertion related. It's less that I feel like an adult, more like I feel old.
I’ve always thought the measure of being an adult is when you being to like mustard.
Which kind of mustard? I can do French, Whole Grain, and squeezy but get English mustard away from me.
Funnily enough, I do feel like an adult, mostly because I've been aware enough for long enough that everyone else is making it up as they go, that I can sense when people are on their bullshit and navigate it pretty effectively.
Also I'm making a lot of decisions that will hopefully insulate me from the consequences of my inevitable failure, but I hold no delusions that the safety net will ever be perfect or even good, or that some arbitrary amount of austerity would have bought me a house at this point, so I don't starve myself of the little pleasures in the moment - today is the rainy day. I use my PTO, I get a little treat every once in a while, and I make myself as comfortable as I can. My life satisfaction has increased drastically with that in mind.
Feeling like an actual adult is feeling the way you always have, but going to bed earlier and waking up with a pressing need to pee, but having to oil your joints like the tin man before you can move.
I feel called-out.
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Solid NO, I'm over 35 too...
I work in a school. I mostly talk like one and people bought it. The kids...they know...
Define Adult.
My personal definition is "A child with responsibilities"
This means you don't have to feel like an adult to be one.
If you really look past the facade of humanity, that's really all we are.
And my definition of a teenager is really just "A hormonal child"
Lastly a manchild is "An adult that shirks and refuses to act like he has responsibilities, while also whining about them"
It's like the horizon of ignorance in science. The more you know, the more you know you don't know.
I am constantly doing things that make me feel more adult. Like at some point I will have done enough of these things to be an actual adult.
I don't. I'm 29 but I feel like I'm 18~19. Doesn't help that I still look like I'm in my early/mid-20s, so I can't even look in the mirror and remember my age.
I feel like an adult. I'm in my 30s. But i got to make my own definition of adult. Really it's not so much not feeling like an adult, it's realizing none of the adults really know what they are doing.
I sure don't, constantly feel like I'm driving a car with feet that don't touch the pedals. Luckily I've got one hell of a community around me, and although the town's nickname is Shitshow USA we seem to make it work.
i stopped growing at around 24 years of age
I was challenged about this subject not too long ago and thought a lot about how do I define adult? In my analysis and perspective, what adult really means in a meaningful applicable way is:
Being an adult is being in control of your life
I think that is why the feeling of the title is so widely experienced. Fortunately, the basis for this is not you, per se, it's how we got here as a collective. In my estimation we are encouraged not to be in charge of our own lives.
There is bravery in facing ugly truths and thus begets for seed for growing. It is actually neccessay. Hang in there, perservere, you are magical!
"Adversity is the diamond dust Heaven polishes its jewels with"
"Adversity builds muscle, adversity builds strength. Adversity, it turns out, is preparation for success"
I think the issue is people equate "feeling adult" with feeling confident, responsible, agential, nomic, or otherwise whole. When in reality the only assurance is that you'll get older.
I sort of feel like an adult, in that I have a job I care about, a mortgage, a partner, responsibilities. I think the change happened when I lost my entire safety net when my parents passed away. If I don't take care of myself, it's right back to the streets. That kind of looming danger makes a person feel "grown up" pretty quick.
But at the same time, I don't feel adult enough to want to start a family or have any optional responsibilities. I just get through the grind to feel stable and play videogames, which is probably a childish mindset.
Mid 30s for reference.
As an ADHD-riddled depressed mess who can hardly function at all? No.