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I'm about 12,950 Kilometers from my spawn point, according to Google Earth. That place is not "home" since I barely have any memories of it, and left the country during primary school.

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[–] BootLoop@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

Like 10 kilometers? The hospital I was born in was torn down but I still live in the same town and I don't plan on leaving.

[–] scytale@piefed.zip 3 points 1 week ago

Half a world away. It hasn’t been my home for more than 2 decades now.

[–] lemming741@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I saw an article 20 years ago that claimed the median distance of birthplace to death?place? is 50 miles for men in the US. I was determined to beat that number, and I'm almost double that now but goddamn was it hard.

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In functional reality, I've lived in the same place all my life. In technical terms I'm less than 5 miles from the hospital where I was born.

I'm determined to be the short side of the 50 mile average.

[–] theherk@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

6k km almost precisely. Different continent. This will be my home.

[–] Horsey@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

4300km. I’ll go back for a few more funerals and maybe because downtown Boston has fantastic food.

[–] ghost_towels@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

Weirdly I’m only 17 kms as I’m staying with friends while I’m away from home working. I actually live 90 kms away now, though I lived all over the world growing up. The furthest away was 12k kms.

[–] spirinolas@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I'm about 500 meters from the place where the hospital I was born stood (the building still exists, but it's something else now).

I grew up in this city since my parents moved here before I was born. I also lived here half of my adult life and I'm thinking of leaving.

I have no emotional connection with this city. My family is from a different region of the country and we have a very different culture. My heart is with my parents hometown and I always identify myself with the region autonym.

Other side of the country.

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

About 5,743 miles (9,227 km) from my spawn point, and no, it's not home, although I wish it were now that the US has decided to be fascist. I was born in an American army hospital in Stuttgart, Germany.

[–] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

38 miles away, but it should be noted that since being spawned, I've moved upwards of 3k miles from that point and then returned to my current location many years later.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Less than 200 miles. But I grew up about 400 miles farther. And no.

[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Thousands of miles and no.

[–] trijste@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 week ago

Feels like they langoliers in my mind

[–] dfi@lemmy.nz 3 points 1 week ago

12005km from my place of birth where I still have family. But home is where I live

[–] chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 week ago

I don't feel like ~~doing the math~~ googling it, but I was born Brooklyn, NY, USA. Currently a few miles outside Atlanta, GA, but my journey here takes me up and down the east coast, plus a place further south. I can't really think of NY as home because I've only lived there maybe 1.5 years at most, and 1 of those was as an infant.

At 1 my family moved to GA, at 2 they moved to Saint Vincent and the Grenadines (fathers home country), where my first memories are from. At 7 my mom left said father over his repeated cheating, so we moved back to Brooklyn for ~6 months (maybe less) then moved to Virginia until I hit 17 when I graduated highschool. Moved to Florida, lived there for years until 2017 and I moved to GA for a job.

I'm not sure I consider anywhere other than where I am now "home." I have fond memories of each place, but they just feel like phases of my past life, like elementary(well, 4 different elementary), middle, or highschool. I don't consider any of those schools any more of a school I went to than the others, and I generally treat "home" the same. It's just where I live now.

I also don't fully identify with any ethnic group either. I spoke without an accent in the island so never fully integrated, and then in the US I didn't quite have the same lived experience there either.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I live around 40 miles from where I was born.

My home is where I am and who I'm with now. My spawn point is somewhere I managed to survive long enough to stage my successful escape.

[–] BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I'm about 8036.68 miles , 12933.78 kilometers from where I was born and where I am isn't my home but now it's been so long since I've gone back that I'm not sure it will feel like home if I go back either

I live about 100km from my hometown. It's where I was born and I lived there on and off for about half my life but I no longer think of it as home.

[–] hakunawazo@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Home is where the close ones are.
Beside that, birth place is 151 km away.

[–] sunglocto@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago

16 miles right now.

[–] GuyFawkes@midwest.social 2 points 1 week ago

Right now I’m 9.8 miles away. Looking up how far away from it I live…looks like 10 miles. So now I’m wondering if I just spend my life rotating in a 10 miles away radius from my spawn point.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

About 1600km, and fuck no. Hit the ground running when I was 16 and never called anywhere home again.

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[–] Azal@pawb.social 2 points 1 week ago

375 miles away from spawn point, but my tutorial zone (where I actually grew up) was 215 miles away from there and 215 miles away from my current home point.

I lived in the city of my birth for a bit for a job, fucking hated that city, it was never home. Lived off and on where I grew up, and now have lived in my current for about 10 years.

Where I grew up is a complicated feeling. I miss the Ozark mountains, the flatlands I live in now I don't like despite liking the city. But the area has changed so much and so rapidly it's like coming to the bones of an animal where nature has rapidly overtaken the body and saying that's the animal. It's... recognizable if you squint at it, but it's dead and gone and now something completely different.

I'm not sure if where I live now is "home" still. But if where I grew up was home, I can never go back there. I can live in that place, but the farming town is now a metro that is unrecognizable.

[–] tryagain@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

I'm almost at the antipode of my spawn point but I moved here late enough in life that, while the rest of my household call here home, I still think of my birthplace as home. Some days it's hard.

[–] Evotech@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

480km away. Not much

And no

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

285 miles, 459 km. But no, absolutely not. My home town is where I grew up, not where I was born.

[–] blarth@thelemmy.club 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago

About 1000.

Lightyears? 👽

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

A bit over 1200 miles. Haven't been to Texas since before i could read, once got close enough in Oklahoma to seat the GIANT WALL OF HEAT to the south and promptly said fuck that. No desire to ever be there.

[–] ThisIsNotHim@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 week ago

A few hours. For me home is always a few things: my current residence, the place I grew up, and any place I slept last night that I'll sleep again tonight.

They don't all mean the same thing, but let's go home could mean any of those.

[–] lunarul@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Over 10,000km. This is home, it's where my kids were born and are growing up. But there's also "back home", where I spent more than half of my life, where I met my wife, and where both our families are other than the two of us and our children.

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 2 points 1 week ago

~2250 miles

Visiting the area feels like going home. I don't belong in my current location and i hate it here.

[–] FerretyFever0@fedia.io 2 points 1 week ago

2307.9 miles. Don't remember Northern California at all.

About 30 miles, couple towns over. We moved away when I was 5, and back to roughly where I live now when I was 9. I consider my current city to be much more my home than my spawn point. Spawn point is in a pretty boring red county.

[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

roughly 2200 miles, and no

Farthest away I have ever lived from where I was born? About 5500 miles. Again, neither were home. Don't know if I have a place that is really a home no matter where I am, because I have moved around a lot in my life.

[–] kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago

I live about an hour from my spawn point. I don't consider it home as I left it 15 years ago after realizing it was dead end city full of terrible people.

20 km, and yes, definitely my home, i'd say :D

[–] urata@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

About 120 miles. I am still familiar with the town, I've been back several times, but it's not my home. I've lived in the city I live in now for a little over 30 years.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago

Looks like 1126 miles. I had to guess the hospital, though. It was never home. Probably left within days never to return.

Other than that, lived my whole life within a 12 mile diameter except when I was in the Army and a 5 year stint in DC.

[–] PonyOfWar@pawb.social 2 points 1 week ago

Around 20km from the town I was born in. Never lived there though, so it's not really my home but definitely part of my home region. I do currently live in the village and house I grew up in, which I would consider as home.

[–] JandroDelSol@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

7km, and yes, still home lol

[–] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Currently 7 miles / 11.3 km away, but have lived 3941 miles / 6343 km away.

The fact that I'm now so close again is pretty much pure chance.

[–] Shezzagrad@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

5 miles away from spawn point, the furthest I've lived is 300 miles away but in the same nation, my spawn city is absolutely home to me, even if not ethnically from here, I am very privileged to be born here

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