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What are some of the best decisions of your life? (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by erik111189@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I'm talking about life decisions that worked out perfectly and left you with no regrets. Here are mine:

Quitting Facebook - I quit using facebook about 2 years ago. It's a toxic platform that destroys your privacy, worsens your mental health, and endangers democracies. Much happier since I quit, and no regrets at all. Talking to friends and family face to face or through text is way better.
Quitting my old toxic, stressful job - I quit working at a top 500 software firm a while back and have been much happier ever since. There was little to no work/life balance, co-workers were extremely antagonistic, the work was amazingly both boring and stressful, and management didn't care about anything. Quit for another job that paid around the same with a much better culture. No regrets.
Reading books - Books have completely re-shaped my world view, and I would be much worse off without them. Here is my list:
- "The Better Angels of Our Nature," "Enlightenment Now," and "Factfulness" by Steven Pinker (first two) and Hans Rosling (last). The world is improving overall, not getting worse like the media makes it seem. Reading the facts convinced me it is logical to be an optimist.
- "Ultralearning" by Scott Young and "A Mind for Numbers" by Barbara Oakley. Two books that teach the science of efficient learning. These books helped me understand the best strategies for long-term knowledge retention. Every public school in the world should be teaching the concepts in these books.
- "The Bogleheads' Guide to Investing," "The Millionaire Next Door," and "Your Money or your Life," by Taylor Larimor, Cotter Smithand, and Vicki Robin (in that order). As well as various FIRE blogs. These books helped me learn the basics of personal finance, investing, and early retirement. Previously I thought that working until you die was an unavoidable fact of life. Reading about FIRE and smart money management made me question that assumption, and freed me from the shackles of corporate nonsense.

I'm interested in hearing what other people have to say. Give me what you've got.

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[-] lockedcasket@lemmy.world 27 points 11 months ago

Quitting Alcohol / Smoking. Not only for my long term health but for my wallet.

[-] erik111189@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago

I used to have ~8 beers daily. Felt terrible majority of the time. Now I workout 4 days a week and only drink 2 beers every Friday. It's great.

[-] lockedcasket@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago

Wish I had your self control! I do miss having a beer or two socially.

[-] Kindbudnuggz@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 11 months ago

For sure. I had a 50 dollar a day drinking problem (when drinking at home, bar was minimum 100). Credits cards almost paid off after 1 year sobriety.

[-] Balssh@kbin.social 1 points 11 months ago

Congrats man, you rock!

[-] Naked_Yoga@sh.itjust.works 21 points 11 months ago

Getting in shape and having a regular exercise routine, for sure. All of the side effects from that are incredible... Stamina, confidence, clearer thinking. So great.

[-] agressivelyPassive@feddit.de 4 points 11 months ago

Also, you can hate yourself in a more productive way. That's really helpful.

[-] CrowLady@lemmy.world 17 points 11 months ago

Stopping smoking and going vegan. Also taking care of myself in any way, be it fitness or finances.

[-] MajorHavoc@lemmy.world 16 points 11 months ago

I started a morning journaling habit and committed to doing it for two weeks - about five years ago.

Most mornings I just jot down 3 quick random things I am thankful for.

Now when I look back over those journals I see evidence of big decisions they helped me make, new habits, all kinds of other ways it's affected me for the better.

I've also built up a nice little stock of letters to my kids this way, for them to enjoy after I'm gone.

[-] Peafield@programming.dev 3 points 11 months ago

My morning journalling is also five years old this year. My only regret is that I wish I'd done it sooner. Going back and reading what you did last year or the year before, can really show how much you've grown or what still needs improving.

[-] unwinagainstable@lemmy.world 15 points 11 months ago

Creating a budget. I’m naturally frugal so I did okay without a budget. Stayed out of debt, saved for retirement, etc. Making a budget took it up to completely new level. It added clarity into all of my personal finances. I plan and save more. I know exactly when to expect upcoming expenses and have emergency funds earmarked for unexpected. I have a much better understanding of how much I can contribute towards retirement while keeping a sufficient cash flow for my budget. A budget made everything more clear and reduced stress

[-] MajorHavoc@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Yeah. I did well before I kept a budget, but I could not have afforded my pandemic home arcade project without my budget spreadsheet.

[-] jcb2016@lemmy.world 15 points 11 months ago

I just read a little bit my best decisions are getting married and having my kids

[-] ikapoz@sh.itjust.works 14 points 11 months ago

Not for everyone, and it’s not ALL upside but having a kid. It is so much fucking fun, and it inspires me to be my best self at the same time.

[-] Magzmak@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago

Moving closer to family has been really nice

[-] erik111189@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago

We're considering moving to Europe soon for a job opportunity, but moving away from family is the major downside.

[-] Magzmak@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Best of luck, Europe is worth it. Maybe you can go for a couple of years and hopefully fam can visit a bunch.

[-] monkeytennis@lemmy.world 10 points 11 months ago

Changing career paths in my 30s (less stress, more money), getting a divorce (not staying in an unhealthy relationship), having kids (gives me a lot of purpose), paying down my mortgage (financial freedom)

[-] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 10 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Unmarried and childless.

I get to enjoy all of my money AND time. Glorious.

[-] MiddleWeigh@lemmy.world 10 points 11 months ago

I deciding to be happy.

[-] Bunnylux@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago

Indulging my bdsm fetishes with consenting and enthusiastic participants:)

[-] Yaks@lemmy.fmhy.ml 8 points 11 months ago

Quitting college and trying to make my hobby of computers my living in the late 1980s. I rode the technology wave to my current job as an IT manager.

[-] mastermischke@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago

Both of my kids. Most stressful job you could image - but the „payout“ is worth every bit of it. Every fuckin day

[-] eran_morad@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago

marrying & having kids. gave my life meaning.

[-] Balssh@kbin.social 7 points 11 months ago

Keeping my reading habit throughout the past decade.
Choosing the "wise" path of Computer Science instead of Physics as my degree: I absolutely love math and physics but sadly in my country research and teaching are poorly financed and paid. I don't love CS but I enjoy it enough and also the pay is very good even for a fresh graduate.
Learning about finances and investing. I don't expect to FIRE but at least I think I'm on the good path

[-] LordDumbass@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

getting into D&D because it helped me gain some very good friends

[-] Montagge@kbin.social 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Getting out of the US Army.

Not having any kids, and getting dogs instead.

Getting a bidet.

[-] Whirlybird@aussie.zone 6 points 11 months ago

Stopping drinking alcohol, and getting in a regular exercise routine. I was never a huge drinker nor was I really overweight, but both changes made a massive difference.

[-] giacomo@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago

Balance-transfering my way out of credit card debt.

[-] FinallyDebunked@slrpnk.net 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

taking antidepressants

[-] Screwthehole@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

We went out on a limb and just closed down our business and moved to a new city. Since we got there, it's like I've had a horseshoe up my rear end.

[-] PrunesMakeYouPoop@kbin.social 4 points 11 months ago

Joining the military. It was not for me, but it gave me a career path and got me out of the house at 18.

Quitting drinking.

Not having kids.

[-] redballooon@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

Having children.

[-] forkbomb@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Same here. Never thought I wanted kids growing up either.

[-] animist@lemmy.one 3 points 11 months ago

Learning English

[-] Sivar@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Uni, having kids, my last car, and hopefully buying a house (the latter remains to be seen but I’m optimistic).

[-] Krakatoacoo@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Thank you for the book recommendations. I'll have to check those out.

[-] ji88aja88a@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Getting fit(ter), quitting smoking (12 years now), budgeting, doing things for me

[-] stratoscaster@lemmy.zip 3 points 11 months ago

What are some of the things you got out of those investment/finance books? I'm curious as to whether they would be helpful for me.

I always thought those books were the basic stuff you would already know.

Thanks!

[-] anon6789@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Not OP, but I'm a big fan of the Boglehead's Guide.

John Bogle was the founder of Vanguard and was one of the key figures in promoting index funds and low cost investing. This book covers his investing philosophy in an easy to understand manner.

To tl;dr the book, buy 1 total market , 1 total bond, and 1 total international index fund. That gets you a weighted piece of everything. There is no picking winners, you are picking EVERYTHING.

This will give you an AVERAGE return every year with no need for you to do any trading. Why do you want average instead of the best? Because no one can predict what will be best, but 75% of all funds perform LESS THAN AVERAGE.

It greatly simplifies investing with results you can verify yourself, and it takes almost so the stress out of investing so you actually do it and stick with it, and the quantity of time your money spends invested without touching it is what gets you the positive return on investment.

The book is about 300 pages, so this is obviously simplified. If you'd like a longer but still quick explanation check out the Bogleheads forum wiki.

[-] Tigbitties@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago

No particular order: Losing weight, learning guitar and 3D modeling and having a kid.

[-] little_pinecone@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago

Not having kids, ending a toxic relationship, changing career path (programming) , exercising min 4 days/week.

[-] gzrrt@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Moving to a city that doesn't force you to own a car, learning Chinese, and quitting drinking

[-] ComradeR@lemmy.ml 1 points 11 months ago

Reading books, quitting alcohol and stop being sedentary.

[-] LongRedCoat@kbin.social 1 points 11 months ago

Quitting soda. Then much later, quitting sugar altogether.

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