i’ve had friends drop out of campaigns and no one has really batted an eye. it’s not a big deal just tell them it’s not for you or you’re too busy to commit to 4 hours every sunday.
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I need strangers on hexbear to tell me that my anxiety is irrational so I can get over it
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No, your anxiety is rational because it will effect others and their is a risk of a negative reaction. What is irrational is jumping to the conclusion that there will be a negative reaction, assuming that people aren't understanding and gracious, and probably labeling yourself with negative titles for the simple act of meeting your own needs and desires.
The most likely and common scenarios are not extreme outcomes, your fear is narrowing your focus on these things. It will not go horribly, and it might not go 100% smooth, but it will be something that you can handle.
If you are willing to do one last round, I'd tell them ahead of time you plan to quit and see if you can get the DM to prepare some chain of events which allows your character to do some heroic self-sacrifice or embark on a voyage to a far-off land in your last session. Otherwise, people have real lives and they should understand if you are unable to keep going.
4 hours per session is ridiculously long, the game I'm in is just 2 hours per session and I'm always exhausted by the end of it.
Huh, we do roughly 6 hrs weekly. Used to do 8-10 in highschool but we don't have time for that anymore lol
Talk to the DM about a cool end for your character. Ride off into the sunset after a crazy quest, and give the DM permission to use your character as an NPC? Or hold the line and go out in a blaze of glory?
also i found weekly DND to be exhausting (even as a player, i felt like it always ate up one of my only days off). every other week is much more enjoyable to me.
I might suggest that hmmm
"i'm sorry everyone but i find i'm not enjoying myself playing dnd lately and i feel the need to spend that time on sundays doing other things. i do love hanging out with you all, though, so i hope we keep getting together sometimes for other activities."
like @frogloom@hexbear.net said. it's also likely they can tell you're not enjoying yourself very much, they might be supportive and appreciate the opportunity to find another player who will enjoy it more.
It's generally no big deal. If you don't want confrontation, just say that your schedule has changed and you can't commit to 4 hours weekly.
Friends, I quit the DND campaign.
"Hi everyone, I don't really enjoy this game and would like to stop playing it." They will understand.
Optionally ask the DM if your character can have a cool finale; it could make the game more interesting for everyone.
Every Sunday is definitely excessive. Just say sorry guys, I have too many obligations to do DnD every week. My groups have ad hoc schedules and on average we play about once a month. I couldn't imagine playing more frequently than that.
Talk to your DM about how your feeling first so you can give your character a proper death. Might not be important for you but the other players might value it. Explain to everyone that maybe DND just isn't for you and now out
Lmao wow this is kind of exactly the situation I'm in. 3 hour sessions every Sunday, and it's become such a slog every time.
Have your character start to have a mid life crisis about all this adventure shenanigans, start to really miss his wife and kids, and long for his blacksmithing apprenticeship that he never finished. He wants a simple life after the trauma of what he's experienced.
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