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I don't dream. No nightmares either. I have no problems sleeping and I'm not on drugs so it isn't a health thing - I've been like this all my life.

The only times I've managed to dream are when I nap while already well-rested, but even then I still usually don't. Like I might get 1 or 2 dreams a year in total from when I go back to sleep immediately after waking up, but never from normal sleep.

Anyone else like this?

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[–] PostingInternational@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I believe that's perfectly normal.

I've read a scientific piece which claimed that actually everyone has dreams regularly. It's just that you normally don't remember them. Sometimes, if you are waken up at a particular moment, you might remember them, but otherwise you would not. So it's nothing to worry about at least...

On the other hand, I had a date once, who claimed she actually lives an actual 2nd life in her dream world, every single night, and remembers absolutely everything about it. Now that is something unusual...but she was also...let's just say "unusual" in her 1st life, so who knows what was going on there...

[–] MILFCortana@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

My girlfriend is like that, except she has night terrors, so the other world is more being buried upside down in the desert next to an anthill

Frankly, that sounds terrifying.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

That'd be so cool! If she's honest then I'm super jealous

[–] anarchoilluminati@hexbear.net 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

As they said, you more than likely dream often but you simply don't remember them. And you can totally do what his date does too.

To remember your dreams better and to gain control of what happens during your dreams, you need to practice lucid dreaming techniques.

I highly recommend Stephen LaBerge's Exploring the World of Lucid Dreaming. It has a great explanation of everything, different methods, and practice strategies to build up your skill. It taught me how to lucid dream and, at my height of practice, was generally having a very interesting dream life and remembering it often.

You can find a free PDF here.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 9 months ago

Thanks for the free book I'll check it out!

[–] Vertraumir@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I either don't have dreams at all or don't remember them. I only had dreams (or remembered them?) 3 times in my life, and all of them were nightmares.

In the first one I was falling from the sky and woke up when I hit the ground. In the second some a was drowning in some oily liquid and then woke up suffocating under my blanket, so maybe that was the cause of this dream. And in my last dream (it was ~2 years ago) I cut my sister's head off and then cut my throat. The entire thing was realistic af and after I woke up I really thought I killed her and wanted to call the police :/

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 9 months ago

😰 that's fucking rough... I think no dreams is better than dreams like those

[–] tamagotchicowboy@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Other way around, have pretty good recall being a natural lucid dreamer. Near everyone dreams they either don't remember and/or have a form of aphantasia and its not visual but uses other senses (which tbf is extra hard to remember if you're used to a visual heavy world). I dream even on really small amounts of sleep like naps. I figure most people not remembering dreams is a mercy since a majority of my dreams are boring recaps of real life.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Are your recaps lucid? That seems like the opposite of boring to me but I guess I might feel differently if I experienced it every day forever

[–] tamagotchicowboy@hexbear.net 4 points 9 months ago

Generally no, my normal dreams are recaps, sometimes during a recap I'll figure out I'm dreaming and then go off to do whatever I want, starting with a teleport the hell out of there, sometimes I just want to pester dream people representations of my psyche with annoying questions. I generally ld around twice a week with minimal effort, I have a coworker that lds every dream, not really jealous since we're retail and sometimes she struggles with exerting control over the dream so she can get out of dream version of work to go have fun. Nothing like going home, sleeping, then finding yourself at work in your sleep, then having to wake up to go back.

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I only dream if I fall asleep after taking caffeine, but it's basically guaranteed that if I have caffeine right before bed I'll get something cool.

[–] AnarchoBolshevik@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 9 months ago

Huh. Maybe that explains why my dreams are almost always bizarre.

[–] DankZedong@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Some year and a half ago I gave a party and bought this cheap red wine in a box. The 3L kind. Party was over, one of the boxes had quite a bit left and I put it on a shelf for a while. After some months I started drinking it again because I thought: 'it's alcohol what's the worst that could happen?'. I had the wildest dreams because of that wine. So vivid, so intense and so long. When the box was done I stopped having those intense dreams. I dream from time to time but I rarely remember it these days and it never really is that intense.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago

I don't drink but I'd seriously consider taking it up if it means dreaming like that. I wonder what Europeans put in their wine

[–] RonPaulyShore@hexbear.net 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

sorry i've been hoggin' all the dreams.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago

"Grrr... Curse you, Colin! Looks like you're bound and determined to get in my way! I'll have my troops swat you like a fly!"

[–] Comradesexual@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago

That's funny because it's your dream post that inspired this one

[–] PoY@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 9 months ago

For a time I used to try to lucid dream, and part of that was writing down my dreams immediately upon waking up. The more I did that the more I remembered my dreams and the longer they tended to be. I eventually gave up and it seems like I don't dream anymore though I'm certain I just forget them immediately upon waking.

[–] MILFCortana@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Dream journals help you recall more and more over time, fwiw

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 9 months ago

Doesn't work if I can't dream anything in the first place :(

[–] LarkinDePark@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 9 months ago

I remember thinking the same a few years back but I definitely do dream these days. It's very hard to remember them just a short while after waking. I suspect it's related to some foods. Blue cheese seems to result in intense dreams.

[–] Tobberone@lemm.ee 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yes, yes, yes, but no. I dream but I generally don't remember any of them when I wake up. Sometimes, though. And more often with age it seems.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago

That's interesting because someone posted a link that says people generally forget their dreams more often with age. You've got a deluxe brain I think

[–] NothingButBits@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 9 months ago

I dream every night. I'm just an average guy, so I don't know what's so special about dreaming.

[–] AnarchoBolshevik@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Almost everybody dreams. Sometimes I’ll forget my dreams as soon as I wake up, but other times I remember them, and occasionally I’ll even record one.

I do not remember much of my last dream, but I do remember that it was, interestingly, about the word ‘Israel’, and how it is wrong to refer to Zionism’s régime as ‘Israel’ since that word can also refer to Jewry, and it gives the poetic expression ‘the children of Israel’ an unintended meaning. I thought back to this old epitaph:

The children of Israel wanted bread
And the Lord sent them manna,
Old clerk Wallace wanted a wife,
And the Devil sent him Anna.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago

If my brainwaves go haywire in my sleep but I don't wake up to remember anything, can we really conclude that it was a dream? 🤔 Maybe it was a little seizure who's to say

And yeah the coopting of Judaism by Zionists is despicable. Hexbear has had a few struggle sessions over depicting the Israeli flag on fire because it's got the star of David on it.

[–] SSJ2Marx@hexbear.net 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Does "99% of the time" count? If so then yes. I remember almost every dream I have just because I have so few of them that it's a notable event for me when they happen.

But, maybe this seems weird, I feel like I'm aware of the time I spend sleeping more than the average person. I can say to myself, "I will wake up at six AM", and then do it without an alarm. I think it's related to how light I sleep (I need earplugs to sleep soundly in any room with another person), like maybe I'm waking up and looking at my clock and not realizing it.

my last dream is really embarrassingMy mom gave me a bag of weed. I smoked it with Rick from Rick and Morty. We both had giant glass bongs that constantly changed colors. Then when I went back inside, I tried to give my mom the rest of her weed back and I accidentally dropped it all over the floor. While I was picking it up my sister came in an accused me of trying to steal my mom's weed because I was addicted to it, and I spent the rest of the dream trying to convince her and my mom that that wasn't the case.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I can sometimes do the internal alarm clock thing too, but for me it happens when I'm so anxious about the upcoming day that I don't sleep much in anticipation.

spoilerLMAO you should've pinned it all on Rick

[–] ButtigiegMineralMap@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I usually remember dreams when I’m woken up from them.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

But not if you sleep fully?

[–] ButtigiegMineralMap@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Hmm, usually not. Like 90% of the time I don’t remember dreaming at all. Maybe like 7% is that I remember the dream because someone IRL was yelling my name and I somehow added a character in my dream that yells my name, then I wake up. Maybe 3% of the time I can remember my dreams naturally. I used to write in a dream journal to describe my dreams the second I wake up, not anymore tho.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 9 months ago

That's a bummer. You could be playing LSD dream simulator irl and you wouldn't even know

[–] bloubz@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 9 months ago

I only get (or probably remember) dreams when I'm well rested. I think you just don't remember them, and you could try sleeping more

[–] QueerCommie@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 9 months ago

I don’t dream often, but it’s not rare.

[–] kig_v2@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Lucid dreaming and astral projection and contact of the 5th kind and bad drugs and occult practices led to paranormal experiences and negative experiences with sleep and dreaming which led to me smothering my dreams and training myself to instantly wake up if i begin dreaming. Since those years, i have slowly tip toed around dreaming again, i can tell i still have reflexive safe guards that dampen my dreaming ability.

If you want to dream more, one tried and tested trick people have learned: when you do dream, make sure to take note of it immediately, tell someone about it immediately. Preferably both vocally and in writing. Over time this will lead to more dreams...and more lucidity, which for most people is a fun or interesting plus.

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 9 months ago

Not to pry, but you've done occult practices and had paranormal experiences with dreaming? That sounds pretty cool, what about that made you quit dreaming? You don't have to be specific or even respond to me if you don't want.

[–] comrade_pibb@hexbear.net 3 points 9 months ago

I don't dream when I've been smoking weed regularly

[–] oscardejarjayes@hexbear.net 3 points 9 months ago

yeah, I don't dream either. Used to, when I was much younger.

[–] American_Communist22@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

idk but offhanded ill say i always really liked ur pfp

[–] WaterBowlSlime@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago

Thanks! I chose it because Olaf Advance Wars looks like a mix between Stalin and Marx to me. I like seeing you around the fediverse too <3

[–] BenEarlDaMarxist@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago

I'm probably in the same boat as you, as in most of my dreams, if you can even call them that, happen in a pitch-black void with nothing to do. There are a few cases where I actually dream, where I remember one case to have been me consuming spaghetti and a few hours of feeling funny later a giant worm with sharp teeth popping out my stomach, but that dream and a few others I don't remember are just exceptions, not the norm.

[–] Jonathan12345@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 9 months ago

Might be that you do dream, but don't remember. I usually only remember dreams when I wake up really early, right after they've ended or even in the middle of them.

[–] blakeus12@hexbear.net 2 points 9 months ago

piggybacking this dream thread to ask: how do you dream about something specifically? i really want to murder benito mussolini in my dreams