Ya know, when hermit crabs find a new shell and it's too big for them they sit next to it. Others come try it and if its too big for them they sit next to it too.

But what's interesting is they line up by size, with the largest crab closest to the shell.

Finally, when a big crab comes by and the shell fits, he drops the old one and the next largest crab gets it. That second crab drops his old one and the next crab gets it, etc, etc. All the crabs in line get a new shell as soon as the crab in front of them moves into their new shell.

So, yeah. I'd watch hermit crabs all day if I could too.

Go see more hermit crabs

The trick is to invite people to go watch the hermit crabs with you. Most won't be into it, but eventually you'll find your people.

I'd watch hermit crabs for a first date, hell yeah.

Staying true to yourself is a better long run strategy than forcing yourself in the company of people you don't care about. At least the day you engage conversation, you'll have all sorts of interesting things to talk about. And if the person is not receptive to hermit crabs facts, you'll know they aren't a match.

A person you'd want to talk to recognizes your hobbies and genuinely listens and respects your interest, even if they themselves aren't a hobbyist.

Can I come watch the hermit crabs too?

The only reason to be concerned would be if they thought, down the line, they're be lonely and unhappy because they didn't build a friend circle now. But clearly they have at least one friend, who apparently cares.

We have no obligation to do what other people think will make us happy, only we know what makes us happy.

Just be:-)

If you're happy being single, be happy being single.

I've been in love three times, and every time it ended and the cruelty of my ex-partner took years to get over. Enjoying your freedom is way better than agonizing over a relationship because at the end of the day, other people are awful.