We say every scifi dystopia is better than our world because our world sucks so bad not because the dystopia is cool

That is chill. Doesn't work towards the goal getting out and doing the real work of building connections though.

Maybe kinky people are easier to organize because a secton of them are very good at following orders

It is weird but I feel like I had had the most luck of late finding weird nerds to do nerd stuff with on fetlife. Not for everyone, and actually not as great for dating. Howver they are people that are 1. Used to going to events 2. Nerdy and weird. So in terms of finding a social group it is hard to get both in other places. Like 90% of everyone there woudl be down to play board games if you asked. Failing that the furry community probably has a something close enough you can check out. They are usually good nerds to visit. Then larp groups. Then finally board game shops / hobby shops. Doping on how populous your area is you can have more or less luck. In some places there are juggalos which we have come to learn are officially comrades in good standing.

You won't be happy when you find out, I am pretty sure.

1. ASMR is platonic BDSM. Our generation had jackasss for platonic BDSM. Theirs is more based on comfort and sensory play.

It skipped our generations due to IP laws but that was how most the legends of old came to be I am pretty sure. " no, our hero was raised by wolves and built this city himself"

I am so excited everytime I hear about some Hawaiian separatist movement

It is fun to see a person you find interesting do a thing you like. Usually they are pretty good impov type comedians. Plus TV has always been way worse on average.

Do you mean you don't get why they like it or don't feel the vibe cause it isn't hard to explain.

I feel like I am keeping up well with the younger generation. A sometimes I feel weird about it like I should stop liking new music at some point but I haven't yet.

There is a paradox. If you can't socialize well you can learn to enjoy doing it poorly. I was briefly part of a bdsm wearwolf club. No one there was capable of regular human interaction and we all gave eachother the space to enjoy that. It was nice until us all being antisocial nerds caused drama. So maybe that was too off the grid but there is probably a weird place where we could all fit in the world. You know, exaggerations of capitalism permitting.

I have a small.social network but it would definitely not meet my human interaction needs without the website here. I don't know of any other places on thr internet with anything like this quality of vibe so it would be a serious blow for my mental health to lose it for sure.

At one point they go to planet that recreates a 1800s England and there a scene about how unions ruin everything. Also some weird sexual violence so the politics are rough. I seems to me the book isn't worth going back to but if you feel different I'd hear your assessment.