WalrusDragonOnABike

Wish I had more trans people around me when I was younger. I had one friend in high school who eventually came out and immediately moved across the country to get away from Texas. Didn't know any until around the time I started questioning. But that timing was annoying because we didn't have the type of relationship where I actually talked with him or hung out with him... but I worried my mom would blame him if I came out and just assume I was impressionable...

yeah, for me the gap between “I might be trans?” to “I guess I’m trans ¯_(ツ)_/¯” was only a couple months.

For me, I think it was like a 2-day "I might be agender, but idk about trans", then like 1-2 weeks of "I think I'm agender, but idk about trans, to "oh...".

but for a year prior to that the way I thought of it was like “I kind of like thinking of myself as a woman, but I’m not really interested in ?>actually transitioning”, and in the ~12 years before that were when I had those random moments of feeling feminine (and felt dysphoria >when there was pressure to be masculine) but didn’t know how to process it.

I hate how it’s all complicated by the stigma around questioning yourself to begin with. I feel like even if I never ever learned that transgenderism was a thing, even if it somehow didn’t exist in society, I could have figured it out sooner if there wasn’t strong social pressure to conform to AGAB.

Weirdly, I also think part of the reason why I took so long to realize was because of growing up in a household that didn't enforce gender conformity at home and my mom is gender nonconforming and frequently gendered as a male. So gender always just seemed like made up nonsense that didn't matter (at least as long as you were lucky enough to be born a girl... always was jealous that tomboys could just exist for the most part, but there wasn't a socially approved counterpart for boys). Given what little I knew about trans people (the "I've always known I was a woman/man" narrative), I assumed that meant I couldn't be since "man" and "woman" just seemed to BS.

Of course, I also did mask outside the household because of social pressures and that eventually poisoned my mind. Wish society was a lot more open to anyone doing things like changing presentation, pronouns, hormones, body parts, etc, rather than it only being seen as a trans thing. So I also agree with you.

I'd be curious to see both "At what age did you first realize you didn't identify with your AGAB or would prefer being a gender other than the one assigned by others?" and "At what age did you realize you are likely trans?" next to each other to see how much of a gap there is for people.

It's just a joke about the 621.

I wasn't comparing them to that. Making a joke about the 621 in the lawsuit amount. It's a furry-associated number.

Are major record labels furries?

Hopefully the concentration is about 55.5 M H2O.

Username checks out. If they weren't so awful, maybe people would care about defending them, but there's just all-around awful. They're uglier, harder to use, and seem to frequently get damaged (probably mostly from people trying to fight with them or just bending them out of the way because damaging them is worth it to avoid dealing with them...

I have some of those. There's just a sliding mechanism built into the pane on the inside. No string. Much cleaner look and so much easier to use.

Why does a baby shower need to be so gendered? Like, no surprise in our current culture the baby's gender is overemphasized since you know nothing except whether or not it has a penis, and I guess "It doesn't have a penis!" doesn't seem as polite as "it's a girl", but why also gender some of the activities too?