Anyone have good tips on hiding chest growth in a way that isn't stiflingly hot? I'm not too worried about it day to day but this summer I may end up at some family functions with family I have no interest in coming out to and am thinking that hoodies won't work in those temps (I am pretty heavyset so it doesn't really stand out much yet but still.) I might just send it, people are very oblivious, but if anyone's got experience...
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Thinking about becoming one of those people who gets disgusted and tells ppl to fuck off when they say "god bless" to me
I won't because I mostly hear it from unhoused ppl tbh but people like this guy in the OP.... fuck this guy
getting facts-and-logic'ed into admitting to myself that I was not straight by a like, very overbearing junior or senior, as a freshman in hs.
I just like, wouldn't hypothetically rule out dating my friend or something and I guess lack of visceral disgust was an immediate tell. She was kind enough to not blab about it. I asked if my friend felt the same way eventually, after much prodding from her. It was a no. I think I cried, which was very rare back then. And I told nobody
I am queer as fuck it turns out so ig she kinda nailed it. I often wonder what happened to her, we only really talked for like a few months freshman year but it was a very formative time.
First off, if you acknowledge you haven't looked into it at all... Maybe do that before commenting. Not to be mean just like, you would genuinely have a lot more insight on the topic if you did
But also beyond the great answers others have given, I think it's very important to note that providing a structured space for such conversations to happen in actually enhances safety over the current status quo, which is that they still happen but in a more ad-hoc fashion. It allows people to gather reliable sources in one place and refer back to previous posts/stickies easier than if these discussions are happening in the mega or in c/traa. So unless you're proposing banning discussion of DIY, which I doubt, it should be compared against what is happening now not a theoretical "no possible harm" scenario
I recently overheard a young guy on a date(?) proudly tell his date that he decorated his new house/apt/whatever with fake plants because he can't keep plants alive
straight up, imagining how utterly infested the world was with tobacco smoke in every public place vs how it is now really gives me some hope for change on other fronts where the bad thing is normalized and it feels immovable
the headline thing in particular is funny because a lot (perhaps the majority) are coming on private carriers. Even the ones that are USPS-delivered are now often using middlemen logistics companies to get it into the US first and then hand off to USPS to avoid paying higher premiums for international shipping
But if it's immediately enforced on all carriers it will grind peoples online shopping treats (and essentials) to a halt which I can't imagine will go over super well
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ohhhh I get it now. Well shit, I'm sorry. I would honestly kill for a place like that. General thrift stores are... uncomfortable for me, and the more hip accepting places still just don't carry anything that fits me
So it was all well worth it in the end.
I still think its a mixed bag at best but mostly because tech companies' greed and AI bullshit have utterly poisoned the well.
The web is bigger and flashier and capable of doing more than ever, but it requires a pretty hefty CPU to even do basic things that you could do as fast or faster on a midrange tower from 15 years ago. And all the sites are designed to be addictive. Mobile devices are technological marvels more than ever before, but they're also always within like 2 years of being e-waste, and have become almost completely proprietary and locked into surveillance capitalism, locking out DIYers as much as physically possible. The cameras are great but "processing software" (it was verging into outright editing/enhancement for years even before the latest AI boom) has gotten so "good" that photos often no longer look like real life, they look "better". The 4k HDR screens come from the factory with baked in ads and dead pixels, the videogames are all building in gambling mechanics to make money, etc etc. And thats not to mention "AI" shit
proprietary charging cables
2000s beauty standards
silver plastic home electronics
nimh and nicad batteries in everything that lasted all of 5 minutes
paper encyclopedias were kinda before my time but also seemed pretty bad
The part where it's "carried over into our modlog" can't be helped, except by defederating or major code changes.
it would be nice to be able to see what comes from our mods/admins vs those of other instances, but currently the anonymization of mod actions is all or nothing. Stuff in the modlog does not entail endorsement from our mods/admins but if its a persistent issue we can nominate instances for defedding.
edit: worth noting that instance admins should still be able to see who did what in the modlog, so we can still hold federated instances accountable for their mods, it just takes someone looking into it