cowboycrustation

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I'm not surprised that all this stuff came out. Drag had a very similar pattern of behavior to past trolls.

Same here. I rarely talk about it IRL.

Yep. It's just a part of life running into people like that. Doesn't mean it doesn't suck, but as you get more experience with it you'll find your own ways of pushing back. A good comeback is "oh, so you see your mother as a sex object?" or something like that.

Thanks a bunch. I'll make you mod

 

Hey y'all,

I'm looking for more mods on this community. I haven't been super active because of school and I want to make sure there's other people looking out for this community in addition to myself.

Requirements:

-Must have a post history either with this community or related ones on this instance

-Must be trans

-Be transmasc (optional, but preferred)

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I don't use outlook anymore but I do use Thunderbird and the UI is janky and outdated, plus it has to download and catch up on messages every time you open it.

Tumblr has a lot of LGBTQ people, but is a text based platform as opposed to a short form video platform.

I'm straight so not exactly the same situation but I recommend that you don't let it take too much of your mental energy and do things that make you happy in the meantime. If you keep looking the odds are that you'll find someone eventually, just takes time.

Can relate to the idea that it would be easier not being trans. It makes dating a lot more complicated to navigate and I've struggled with the idea that being trans makes me less desirable and attractive. Doesn't help that I'm really bad at picking up if someone's flirting with me and feel guilty if I do think that and what if she's just being friendly. Ultimately I realized that the right person isn't gonna care that I'm trans and will love me for my full self.

 

I'm curious how many active transmascs there are on here and want to get to know people better. Introduce yourself in the comments below. You can include anything you want.

Questions if you can't think of any:

-Name

-Gender identity

-How long you've been transitioned/if you've transitioned

-Things that give you gender euphoria

-Where you're from

-What you're looking for in this community

-Random fun fact

 

Megathread of resources in case any of y'all need them. If you don't currently, save it in case you need it in the future.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (3 children)

From my understanding that's pretty rare. Also know plenty of cis women who've gotten that from age and/or childbirth.

 

The gender in question:

 

I used to have an unhealthy relationship with food. I would constantly be feeling guilty about eating anything and was terrified of gaining any weight because it would make me look more feminine.

When I gain weight now I celebrate it. That means my fat gets to redistribute which means less effort that I have to put into passing which means that I can feel more free and comfortable in my own body.

 

While this article does not explicitly mention trans people, this very much applies to all of us right now and is very important to understand.

What is your community like right now? Who are the people who you support and who support you?

I usually just eat the hard drive

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Fuck TSA (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

I have never had so much trouble with TSA (american airport security) until today. My crotch got flagged by their scanners and I had to get a physical patdown (surprise, there was nothing bad). Then I forgot to empty my water bottle so I had to go through it all AGAIN and my crotch was once again flagged and I had to get a physical patdown AGAIN (surprise, nothing bad yet again).

Then my other bag gets flagged after going through the thing again despite my not adding anything to it. The TSA guy opens up my bag and I'm assuming saw my packer which I kept in there to put it back in after I went through security. He then giggles and calls multiple of his coworkers over to look at it. Luckily he didn't take it out. This whole damn time I'm right there. Ugh. Considering getting a lumpy cloth packer just to avoid this ever happening again.

I'm assuming that my crotch kept getting flagged because trans? I've never had this happen to me before.

 

These past couple of weeks I've felt such peace over my transition. I'm still not 100% in the place I want to be yet, but I know that those changes will come eventually.

It's done so much for my mental health to be in an environment that affirms me and to automatically be gendered correctly by most people. Being on testosterone has also done a lot for me because now I can actually bear to look at pictures of myself and think "oh yeah, that's me" and not some weird being that kinda resembles me but isn't.

I remember when I was younger and thought I was trans but was so afraid and second-guessing myself all of the time. I tried to convince myself that I'd regret it.

I don't know what the future will hold. But I'm so, so glad I transitioned. I finally feel whole.

 

I read something somewhere that said that we're likely to enter another stonewall era. What exactly does this mean? I'm aware of the events at the Stonewall inn but don't understand the era part of it.

 

I've come across bad news that my home state has passed a really shitty law regarding trans people. Are there things I can do to help change this and all of the other shitty policies and attitudes at home?

For future reference: you can post most things as long as it relates to the topic (ftm and transmasc) and isn't harmful to you or others

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

What's the name of that comic series with the character on top. I've seen it before.

Edit: Found it.

https://m.tapas.io/episode/1574614

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