cowboycrustation

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Howdy y'all,

Linkopenschest.wav is stepping down as head mod for this community, so I have inherited this position. I need more people to help me co-mod this community since I am not the most active these days. Comment below if you would like to be a mod.

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13660667

I got this "binder" recently. I like it better than any one I've had so far (I'd estimate that I've gone through about eight from various brands).

Pros:

-Very breathable, can exercise in it without feeling like death

-Not terrible in hot weather

-Doesn't show under a lot of shirts, though if you have a shirt with a wide neck it'll show, but does look like an undershirt as opposed to a bra since the neck is high.

-Helps with hiding hip fat

-Feels natural. I forget I'm wearing this sometimes. Probably would be fine sleeping in it as well, though it's good practice to take breaks.

Cons:

-If you have a bigger chest this isn't gonna do the best of jobs binding since it's got less compression than a typical binder. It's still not the worst option in that case, but you won't look completely flat. It's worked well for me flatness wise.

-I wouldn't wear this by itself because it doesn't fit like a regular shirt. Definitely looks an undergarment.

-It smells like a McDonald's playground right out of the package. I recommend you add baking soda into the wash to get the smell out faster.

-I suspect this will stretch out the longer I use it. The solution is to dry it on low as opposed to air dry it. It's got cotton in it so it'll shrink.

I recommend you only get it in black or white if your concern is passing. A lot of cis men will wear undershirts (typically in white, sometimes black, but never in nude).

If you're in-between measurements, order a size up. I made the mistake of getting a size down and I wasn't even able to get it over my head. Had to exchange it which took a while.

If you're interested in a binder with flatter coverage I will post a review of the underworks ultimate binder if requested. Underworks is by far my favorite binder brand for many reasons.

 

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/13674539

Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room

If you are having issues finding housing as a trans person or would like to help others, consider joining this new matrix chat room.

Sharing and updoots appreciated.

 

Not sure if this is the right community to post this, but I'll give it a shot.

One of my very good friends is planning on going into the Navy in about a year. He's generally a moderate left leaning kinda guy, but is trans. He comes from a navy family which is part of the reason he decided to go in the first place. He's going into mechanics and stuff and not combat which is slightly better I guess, but it's very concerning to me that he's planning on joining especially because he's trans. I also feel that ethically, actively participating in that system is bad.

How can I dissuade him from joining? I don't wanna go full force argument mode because it's ultimately his choice but I would like advice on how to softly nudge him away from it without affecting our friendship negatively. Thanks.

 

Hey y'all,

This is specifically for people in the US healthcare system.

If you are getting a test or procedure done, ask them what the cost is without insurance. It may end up being significantly cheaper.

I had to go get a basic metabolic panel blood test today and they were going to charge me $350. When I asked what the cost was without insurance, it was $100. Mind you, I have good insurance. It's around $1500 a month.

This has happened multiple other times with different people that I know. Just asking could save you a significant amount of money.

 

Our Blahaj who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven

Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us for our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us

For thine is the kingdom, the Glory, and the .zone forever

Amen. ๐Ÿ™

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

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Y'all, we have a problem.

These are some of the results of a survey done on our community concerning gender identity:

1.08% Binary Trans men (4).

1.08% Transmasculine people (4).

1.35% Cis women (5).

That's right, there are more CIS WOMEN on a TRANS community than binary trans men or transmasculine people alone.

We have a problem.

This isn't just a Blahaj problem. Another queer instance did a similar survey and found only 3% of their users were trans and use he/him pronouns.

Not having enough transmasc voices is going to be detrimental to our community. There are plenty of transmasc people on the internet. The problem is with Lemmy.

So what are we gonna do about it?

 

For context, these are the results of a survey that I gave to the users of c/Trans.

What are your thoughts?

That's a good point. I'll make a post later today about it.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 5 months ago (1 children)

What internalized transphobia does to a gal

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I was at a summer camp a while ago and there was this pre-transition trans man who was also there. Eventually as the camp progressed and everyone got to know each other better, I told some of the queer people there I was trans so they could relate to me better.

This person, I kid you not, said "Ha, I knew no one from cowboycrustation's state would have a name like cowboycrustation's name!"

I was like...wtf. My name irl isn't one of those names like fern or star that aren't common among cis people. My name is a somewhat common men's name. I literally have a cousin with the same name.

You might could make a post about it on here and ask for others' advice. There's probably other people on here who have it and know the best way to deal with it.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, those are some good ideas. People sometimes do just need to talk to other people and get reassurance, though. Also in Keris's case a lot of the resources didn't apply to her because they are out of the age bracket. I don't think it's a bad thing to have mutual aid in our community in addition to other programs and resources.

Charities are a good first option, but a lot of times their help has strings attached or it takes time to process the request. The key is having as many options as possible for people.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I feel ya. I struggle with anxiety too. I'm glad you feel comfortable in this community.

I did not know that condition existed ๐Ÿ˜ฌ. Sounds like you got unlucky in the hair department. Hope you can get some solutions from your dr.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Yeah, I saw it. It was a big coincidence that both of those situations happened at around the same time. The thing about the support community idea is that I hope it can gain as much momentum as this community and MTF has (ftm's size is miniscule compared to those two...sigh). The more people, the more potential for someone in need to get help.

I imagine that some people would rather this community stay for discussion and advice, but it was an emergency so I did what I could. This post (and their posts) on this community really did get a lot of help for Keris.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 5 months ago (5 children)

That's not a bad idea.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Link to the essay?

Thank you for this! I will pass it along to them.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 months ago (4 children)

That's very kind. This situation has been stressful and I've been all over the place mentally, but things are looking better now for Keris. You've been a lot of help so far and I really appreciate it.

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