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Definitely a good point. I didn't even think about the weather aspect right now. Sounds like a cheap flight is the way to go.

You will definitely save money with a bus ticket, but air travel is less stressful and shorter. It's up to you as to which you wanna choose. You'll get to the same place regardless.

Maybe try wearing some loose clothing to hide the chest bumps? A full suit would make you stand out too much. It's just when you're traveling in a region like Oklahoma. You won't have to do that in minneapoils.

Have you figured out where you're gonna stay when you arrive? After you determine your travel arrangements, you'll need to reserve something like a hotel or airbnb for when you arrive. Also, PACK SNACKS. You're gonna get hungry while you're traveling and there are not always places to get food. Airport and plane food is also considerably more expensive than from outside. Make triple sure you bring water and a reusable water bottle, too.

Things are gonna be okay. You're making a huge leap right now and that's something to be proud of. It takes a lot of courage to be doing this. Remember to breathe in and out.

Yup. I'm relatively new to matrix, but it has been easy to use. I use the element client. Works pretty well for me even though I predominantly use it on mobile. I definitely recommended trying it out.

Yes, please post for anything you need on here! You are in a really vulnerable situation and there are so many people on here who really want to help and feel for you and the situation you're in. You're not asking too much for anything.

I'm glad that the money you have is enough to get you out. That'd be your biggest problem if you didn't have it, but would still be solvable with crowdfunding help from the community.

I can't help you out much with cost of living, because I also still live with my parent. You can definitely ask around about it on here, though. I'm sure you'll get some helpful insight from others. If you're not on the blahaj matrix channel yet, it'd be a good idea to join. It's kinda like a discord server and you can get more instantaneous answers and help from members of our instance/community if you need them.

It's completely understandable that your mental health isn't good right now, and any reasonable person would agree. Just take care of yourself the best you can. 💜

I did some research.

You mentioned that you live in northeastern Oklahoma, so I'm assuming you're in a somewhat reasonable distance from Tulsa. It is possible that you could get an Uber to go from Tulsa to where you are rurally (for a pretty penny, of course). If I were you, I'd play around with the app and see if you can get anything. If not, try another service such as Lyft or a local taxi service based out of Tulsa. Here's a list of some: https://m.yelp.com/search?cflt=taxis&find_loc=Tulsa%2C+OK You can try calling the local ones and explain that you need a ride to Tulsa from where you are and that you are happy to pay or whatever.

Once you get to Tulsa, there is a Greyhound bus station there. The address is 317 S Detroit Ave, Tulsa, OK 74120. You can get pretty much anywhere you need to go once you get to the station. Make sure to buy your ticket in advance. They have routes to pretty much every major US city. You will need to dress conservatively so as to not be visibly trans. I know that it's painful but when travelling on things like Greyhound it's safety first. From what I've heard, Greyhound can be pretty janky and have some weird people, but it will get you to where you need to go since you don't have a car. Just keep a watchful eye on all of your belongings and surroundings.

Make sure other people know about your whereabouts as you travel in case anything were to happen. It can be an online friend, this community, or anything else. Have a plan with them about what to do if anything goes wrong. It is always best to be prepared, even though the chance of anything nefarious happening is very low.

When you get to the state that you're going to, look into the government programs. Blue states are a lot more generous with them than most red. You can qualify for disability because you have autism, so look into that. You might also be able to get things like unemployment, food stamps, and other government assistance while you're trying to figure things out.

Also, please try to eat. It's very important to keep your strength up in situations like these and not eating will make you weaker and your brain foggier. Even if you're not hungry, just try to get something down.

I hope this helps. I'm really really praying that you get out of the situation you're in safely and get to a better place. I promise you, you can have a much better life than the one you've been living. There are places where you can be yourself freely. There are people who will accept you for who you are. It's not going to be easy, but I can promise you that it's going to be worth it.

Hey Keris!

Sounds like things are real rough right now.

I highly recommend that you make another post about your current situation. It's very possible that there are people on here and elsewhere who are willing to help you out irl who live in the states that you're looking at moving to (I know I would if I did, but unfortunately I live in a deep red state too). That would help with building a support network. Also, you are more than welcome to make a GoFundMe or something similar and post it on here to raise funds to help you escape and get back on your feet. We are all rooting for you and want to help!

Hang in there. Take things one step at a time and soon you'll be free. There is a way out of all of this. You're at rock bottom right now, and that means that there's no place you can go but up. You can do this.

Interesting. It's unfortunate they have similar names.

I see. Looks like I misread 😅

I did not mean to use the wrong pronouns to refer to You earlier, sorry. I imagine the majority of people just don't understand it, and so won't respect or accept it at all.

If you don't mind me asking, how does being divinegender relate to Your pronoun usage? How do Your pronouns work verbally? I'm genuinely curious about this.

That sounds very fun. Glad you got to go and had a blast!

I have never come across any of this in mainstream trans discourse. Is there a specific social media platform that these discussions take place on?

I've always wanted to visit a Unitarian church. They seem so cool. They're somewhat rare, though.

I'm very very curious about your experience with United Church of Christ. My only experience is with the run-of-the mill Church of Christ people with their odd, repressive rules, speaking in tongues, and general bigotry. I'm assuming the two differ significantly, but how exactly?