Let's hear some stories from the thready-verse about how you guys met your significant other.
For me it was during the first year of COVID, my company asked who from Europe (I was living in Sweden) wanted to go for a three month business trip to coach a big Korean automotive supplier on how to do modern software development. Most of the other people had families and especially during COVID nobody wanted to travel. I said I could do it, even though I never coached before. But because nobody else volunteered they sent me and and another guy who also was single without a family, etc.
I was convinced that the other guy would have good game with the women here, and thought that there is no harm in installing some international dating app and to try my own luck. During COVID I just lost a ton of weight and found new confidence and it was far away from home and what happens in Korea stays in Korea and so on :D
Anyway, to my surprise during the first two weeks I got some matches and I hit it off with one of them. We met and started dating and very quickly fell for each other. Then when the 3 months were over, I asked the company if the customer would still have some use for my skills and they said yes and send me for 3 more months. I had to go back to Sweden to get a new Visa and spent another 2 weeks in quarantine (as the first time). But then the second tree months were over too and I asked again for more. By that time I was really sick of all the time in quarantine and asked if they could move me from the Swedish office to the Korean office and they agreed.
I went back to Sweden, threw away most of my stuff and put the most valuable things up on a friends attic and moved to Korea with one suitcase. I stayed at AirBnB's for two more months and then we found an apartment and moved in together.
She has a daughter from a previous marriage and we now have a 1.5 year old son together and we still live in Korea :D
Dating apps. The apps suck but meeting people in real life is a lot harder for me. Have to figure out do they date men, do they date men now, what kind of relationship do they want, etc. At least on most apps that stuff is taken care of.
I realized, the stereotypical gay stuff is partially just to signal to people who you may be interested in.
For clarity I'm a man who doesn't date men. I've just had amusingly bad luck being attracted to women who don't date men.
High school crush? Last I heard happily married to a woman.
Office crush? Happily married to a woman.
I do ethical non monogamy. I had a date with a woman. I thought she was great. At the end of the date she said she didn't really date men, so that was that.
A year later I have a date with another woman, and discovered an hour in that she was the previous woman's wife. I was apparently the last guy she tried to date before deciding she wasn't bi anymore.
Oh xd. Um... I guess learn the lesbian stereotypes? Or act aggressively straight so they know to avoid you? I think those are both bad ideas actually
Damn, you and me both! I kept falling for queer women! They gave off really good, genuine vibes that just clicked with me. Of course, I also dated straight women, but usually fell for bad ones. Then I really hit it off with a guy, which was new for me, but he turned out to be freaking awesome, and we are now engaged, years later. Go figure. xD