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[–] Drunemeton@lemmy.world 81 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Before you share unasked for information with someone consider these two points:

  1. Is this a teachable moment?
  2. Does this person want to be taught?

If the answer is No to either one or both, keep to yourself.

In related news: Sometimes people want to vent, sometimes they want solutions. If you don’t know which one is needed it’s okay to ask!

[–] pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 26 points 3 months ago (3 children)

There's actually a 3 question test for this.

  1. Does this need to be said?
  2. Does this need to be said by me?
  3. Does this need to be said by me right now?
[–] thisbenzingring@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 3 months ago

it was explained to me one time as W.A.I.T

Why

Am

I

Talking

[–] barsquid@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

This is all great advice that unfortunately I will not be able to take.

[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 2 points 3 months ago

You forgot number 4:

  1. Will this person spread this misinformation to others?

Don't speak just to speak, speak for a purpose.

[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 11 points 3 months ago

That's sensible advice - often, sharing the info sounds like "I assume that you're an ignorant, so let me enlighten you little thing". And/or fails to take into account relevant, but unmentioned details.

However, when discussing in public (like here), and in more general grounds, there's a complicating factor - the audience. Often what you say might not be useful to the person whom you're replying to, but it might still be for someone else.

[–] cyberpunk007@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Regarding the venting sometimes people don't want a solution they just want to vent.

[–] nulluser@programming.dev 5 points 3 months ago

That's the point.

[–] kionite231@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 months ago

I feel called out D: