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I got my hearing professionally checked today and all is normal. But I have difficulty hearing people I am dining with, talking in restaurants. Is it me, or is the music just too damn loud?!

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[โ€“] JimmyBigSausage@lemm.ee 18 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Wow this sounds so familiar. I need to learn more. Any resources you could recommend?

[โ€“] Kattiydid@slrpnk.net 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

https://screening.mhanational.org/screening-tools/adhd/ This seems like a useful test to me for getting a better idea if you should talk to a psychiatrist or not. It's ups and downs getting diagnosed, especially as an adult. I had one psychiatrist give me their full test and questionnaire and decided I was borderline but wouldn't diagnose me or prescribe anything, (I was already on a med that helped but not any of the controlled ones) The next psychiatrist I went to a few years later didn't even have me do the test, we had an in person appointment, (which I was late to) and after we'd talked for about 20 minutes I asked "so, when do we schedule the ADHD assessment?" He said "Oh, no, we don't need to do one, you very clearly have ADHD." XD Honestly though I learned more about it from the experiences of people on social media who had it than I ever learned from a doctor. I'd start with searching ADHD hashtags and see if you resonate with other people's experiences.

[โ€“] JimmyBigSausage@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] xpinchx@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago

Since you mentioned you got your hearing checked and everything is okay... Auditory Processing Disorder is a pretty common neurodivergence with a lot of overlap with ADHD/OCD/depression/anxiety/et al. It's common with any or all of the others, but it shows up in neurotypical people too.

I'm ADHD and have APD as well :)

[โ€“] Mothra@mander.xyz 2 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I'm on the same camp as you and also undiagnosed. I've suspected some form of autism but didn't think ADHD could be my thing

[โ€“] monsterpiece42@reddthat.com 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Hey there I replied to the person that replied to you but I think that comment may be of value to you. https://reddthat.com/comment/12415216

And FWIW, there is only one kind of autism. ;)

[โ€“] Mothra@mander.xyz 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Thanks!

I hadn't taken those tests before. The raads-r gave me 98 the first time and 105 the second. I found the questions even more infuriating than other tests as there is no frame of reference for most questions, or questions are too ambiguous. Results were the same though- "you sit on the threshold".

The cat-q was interesting. I scored 115 which apparently would be pretty high for a neurotypical female. Not sure what to make of that.

[โ€“] monsterpiece42@reddthat.com 1 points 3 months ago

So I'm not a doctor but as I understand it, CAT-Q effectively is a booster for the RAADS-R. A lot of the RAADS-R is either understanding or recognizing the symptoms of autism, but people who are high masking (aka "camouflaged") have often learned to hide/not notice their autistic traits. Reminder of course, the "A" in CAT-Q means "autistic".

That said, I think 100+ on RAADS-R before a fairly high CAT-Q is something worth considering alone.

I have a special interest in psychology and if this was something related to a mental health condition I would be the first to tell you that the best way to learn is peer-reviewed studies, published references like the DSM-5 (imperfect as it may be) and so on. However, autism is not a psychological issue, it's a neurological difference. This means that the best way to learn is to talk to autistic people (which you currently are!) and see if the little things that make you/them "weird" resonate with each other. If you're feeling more introverted than that, you could maybe find an autistic YouTuber that "clicks" with you and see how their experience compares to yours.

[โ€“] Kattiydid@slrpnk.net 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm currently on an autism diagnosis waiting list cuz there's just not that many adult autism services in my area so maybe it might be that too ยฏโ \โ _โ (โ ใƒ„โ )โ _โ /โ ยฏ

[โ€“] monsterpiece42@reddthat.com 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

FWIW if you're 18+ there is less reason to get formally diagnosed. University of Washington did a study some time ago which found self diagnosis is rarely wrong. Link to that PDF here: https://depts.washington.edu/uwautism/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Self-Diagnosed-Adult-Autism-Resources-handout-9-22-22.pdf

A good way to find out is a combination of a couple tests. The RAADS-R is the most accurate known autism test, is is over 80% accurate. Here is a free one that doesn't require registration: https://embrace-autism.com/raads-r/

And if you doubt you're autistic in any way (guessing based on wanting to be diagnosed), the CAT-Q is a good test to identify camouflaged autistic traits that you've learned to hide. This one is also free from the same place: https://embrace-autism.com/cat-q/

Feel free to ask if you have questions. I'm late diagnosed myself (was over 30) and it's a big world to navigate blindly!