Apparently me saying no to this wedding was the last straw for them, because they're always asking me to do things I can't afford and they don't seem to understand why I can't despite me telling them every time that I am poor. So now I'm the bad person because I'm totally being poor and "holding myself back" on purpose.

If they want to burn this bridge they can fuck right off. I've had enough of this shit.

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[–] DamarcusArt@lemmygrad.ml 36 points 2 months ago (2 children)

"I can't afford it" to someone who has never been poor just means "I would have to dip into my savings for this." they can't even imagine that for most people it means "my bank account doesn't have enough numbers in it and I would become homeless or unable to eat if I paid for this."

[–] mathemachristian@hexbear.net 19 points 2 months ago (1 children)

💡❗so when I say "I can't afford to visit you" it means to them "my savings are worth more to me than spending time with you" and their feelings are hurt!

[–] DamarcusArt@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

That's a much more sympathetic angle than I was thinking of, but it would explain a lot about how this sort person can be so easily offended, it's a miscommunication.

[–] mathemachristian@hexbear.net 7 points 2 months ago

It probably depends on the person, there definitely are people who only want to hang with others of at least the same social standing, but I have had someone whose reaction just didn't fit the pattern I had already observed with them. This way it would make sense

[–] AndJusticeForAll@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago

Yeah exactly.