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there is a non-trivial chance that this woman now gets battered because of OP. he could have not acted emotionally and taken steps to ensure that wasn't a possibility.
blaming the woman for the theoretical actions of her theoretically murderous husband, nice. not engaging with this misogynistic nonsense. tbh women in cishet relationships cheating is basically nbd anyway, couldn't care less.
C'mon.
Yeah no that's a shitty thing to say.
Stalin definitely fucked though
Also, no offense but please, touch grass and consider the human element of things. Cheating generally sucks but there's a whole world of circumstances out there (many of which are far more common than you'd like to know) which would excuse or even justify it in varying degrees, and even if we're to assume uncharitable things, they're still human beings (who have messed up in doing very human things).
Idk, I've been in pretty controlling abusive situations and it's taken me a long time to be open about them, even to my therapists. I don't think that's a level of duplicity that means my abuser is right for abusing me. That sort of situation makes a person cagey as hell and terrified of losing any social connections outside of the abusive relationship.
It might be nothing, maybe the couple actually do this all the time and nothing untoward is happening at all, but it happens often enough that it's worth not jumping the gun.