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SO, okay, first big thanks to @magi@hexbear.net for listening to me talk about this and asking good questions too.
In summary, this read changed my life. I no longer see myself as part of the gender binary as well, and if I'm being honest, "woman" never really fit me anyway. I think I might either be agender, or non-binary femme at this point.
I have so many questions about this, but it's actually unlikely to change the way I present or talk too much. I look more fem than ever with my hair now permanently loose (I was tying it back all the time before I cut it), I may take on some neopronouns (I'm still very happy with she/her, but they just seem neat and I need more practice with them), and I feel like I've finally made peace with that part of me that was never really happy with my transition.
What was that last part? Ok so when I first started, a long time ago, I had a Part Of Me that I had to bottle up that was telling me that I didn't really know what it meant to be a woman, didn't even know what it meant to be a man either... This part had to be bottled in order for me to transition because I was stuck in a society that was making me pick one, and the only way to actually get away from all the people around me gaslighting me about my gender identity (oh you've always been "SO MANLY" all of a sudden after you tell people you're going to transition, like either MusicOwl or LocalOaf were joking about a couple days ago) was to bottle up any ambiguity and do a binary gender. I wonder how common this is. Add in some brainworms about "true trans" and "you must be This Much Suffering to take E" and well, I was very good at sticking to The Script.
The Manifesto changed all that - I am free now. I don't care what the cisses think (well, I mean I do a little still but it's diminishing day by day), enbies are my people because I was the enby all along, and I don't need to fit into a box (other than, you know, for personal safety, but I'm lucky where I live in that regard).
Will I come out at work? Probably not. But did I "accidentally" change my Matrix display name to include fae/faer (second, after she/her) in a fit of gender euphoria, so all my friends and my parents have probably seen it or will next time I leave a message in our Discord bridge room? Uh, yeah... lol. So we'll see how all that goes, there may be questions from my mostly cis friends, but they have been very supportive of my enby friend, so I am hopeful.
As far as thoughts on the theory itself ... I don't have more, really. Just my personal relation to it. I am, however, currently slowly reading through a very interesting book called Otros valles that I am told I will need to post about after... I think it's the perfect companion to all of this, my re-examining of what gender is, what it means to be trans, and how it affects people very different to me.