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Why is the man the older one in the overwhelming majority of age gaps?
Socialization of men in the imperial core is centered on predation and objectification of young women as embodiments of innocence and fragility.
Not really, age gaps are larger outside of the imperial core, with men still being the older partner.
If it is a problem, it's a global societal one.
For real. I've seen 40 year old men with teenagers in Guatemala. That shit's disturbing.
"He's not the vector of exploitation, society made him do it"
Right.
society didn't make them do it, but it did train them to believe that it's acceptable
both the men in question and society as a whole share in the blame
Well do you think male biology makes them monsters? Individual choices? Careful, that sounds like conservative speak.
I think that people participate consciously in social trends, not unconsciously.
There have been people I've been attracted to but have not even flirted with because they were 19 or 20, and it's important for their social development and balance to have someone to date who's close to them in age (and a mumber of other things).
There was someone I was reluctant to get involved with because they were 7 years older than me, but that was balanced out by other factors like emotional stability.
When men are dating women much younger than themselves, it means there are fewer women for men of that age to date, and it's a sort of domino effect where you end up with very young men and very old women being the most alone.
Age gaps are a very close proxy for patriarchy. Less than 4 years and you can write it off as "maybe boys mature a bit slower. Biology defines a range of possibility and a few proclivities, and the shape of society does most of the guiding. But what is culture if not the sum total of our personal selections? For a very long time, children have grown up with peer groups mostly just a few years in each direction. I think people know when something crosses outside that dynamic, and I think people know that a relationship like that is more transactional than loving.