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Thank you for stating your own personal preference. I'll try to make a note of it.
But ... is that automatically anyone else's preference? My friend Sandra prefers she/her, and rejects the they/them as it's apparently confusing.
I'd ask the two of you to figure it out but its not my business.
No, and that's the really hard part. Most would agree that 'they/them/they're' (and so on) is generally safer than a gendered pronoun if unsure. It's also really hard when someone's pronouns, again for those in the back: are just as valid as mine, aren't ones in common use.
There's a non-exhaustive list here: https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2022/08/incomplete-list-gender-pronouns/
It's much easier with friends, as you'll generally get into a groove eventually. However, is less so with strangers.
Even asking someone's pronouns could be met with confused looks from time to time. Context matters. If I asked for the pronouns of a farmer with a thousand yard stare and sun-kissed leather skin to match in my part of the world, despite growing up in the country, I'd probably be punched in the face. 😂
Yeah as you can see this is all a confusing minefield, can't blame people for using the safe choice, they-them.