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Not gonna go deep in to details, but, I just happen to live in a place where importing from internet is complicated and expensive and there's literally zero local business that sells queer stuff.

And even if I could get the stuff easily I must come out first and I'm not sure if I'm even actually trans. I am just overwhelmed by how unable I am to just express my real self irl and I have to do it via internet which makes me feel like a faker even more.

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[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

There are so many transfems who started off believing they were gay men. That 100% does not disqualify you 😅

Also, gender is pretty unique to the individual. There are so many ways to express yourself! I wouldn't worry too much about whether you "deserve" to use a particular label (words are all made up anyways!), just be yourself and describe yourself however you find is useful.

[–] kyoko916@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Is just that is hard for me to consider myself a trans girl. I want to be more feminine, yes. But I don't know if I'll be feminine enough. I'm so insecure about it. Idk how much of an egg stereotype I am but at the end I jusst want to be more free with my gender. And rn I don't think I can do that

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 25 minutes ago

I just want to be more free with my gender

well what's stopping you?

btw "transfeminine" is an umbrella term for anyone who's gender expression is more feminine than their assigned gender at birth. This can also include femboys (if they want it to). It does not mean that you have to refer to yourself as a woman or a girl or use she/her pronouns.

Do whatever speaks to you and discard the rest. Nothing is required ❤️