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The more you need help, the less likely society is to be willing to help you. (www.youtube.com)

submitted 5 days ago by DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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I can't find a link for it but I remember an article where they got a dishevelled, homeless looking man to go into restaurants and ask for leftover food. He was rudely turned away every time. Then they got a man dressed in a smart, expensive business suit to go into the same restaurants and ask for free food (saying he'd lost his job/forgotten his credit card or whatever). He was treated politely and given free food every time.

The link above is to a youtube video, in which an able bodied woman asks for help zipping up her dress and people help her. But when a disabled woman asks for help doing up her buttons, people refuse.

You see the same thing with millionaire celebrities being given free things while poor people are refused the basics of life.

Why is human society like this?

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[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

"Never let them see you bleed"

People generally would rather have a shiny surface level impression of each other that glides through the brain than a deeper, more detailed relationship that requires them to think very hard. They care less about broader implications and meanings and more about "does being around Sterling feel good/bad" and then deciding what to do based on that

Some that is because people, some of that is society forcing us to each be our own little cowboy and giddy on up with none of that bellyaching! I wish people were more inclined to just help each other, but alas.

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

does being around Sterling feel good/bad" and then deciding what to do based on that

This is exactly what people are like. When I became ill and no longer fun, people just drifted away and now I'm alone with no-one.

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I can relate meow-hug Like I said, I wish people were more sympathetic. I found that by telling people I was struggling, I was starting a countdown timer before they'd get sick of me. Don't know what I could've done, short of being someone else.

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 2 points 5 days ago

The only people I've found who want to keep being friends are the community on here. This is the first time in years I've really properly spoken to someone who didn't have to deal with my like my landlady or medical staff.