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Definitely not bi, no sirree
give em a few years mate
or just let him be who he says he is
didn't say i wouldn't
Policing people's labels is kinda intrusive behavior, part of a larger struggle to maintain control over the sexuality and gender expression of others. The cishetnormative patriarchal matrix has indoctrinated us to mark each other in this way, to confine each other to restricitve little boxes that limit our freedom to just be and explore things. We should all strive towards cutting such reflexes out and create an environment where people can live self-determined lifes, and a huge part of that is to claim control over how to express and describe our experiences. Part of that is to not gatekeep bisexuality, but the same goes for gatekeeping straightness.
When you look at how our society treats men who've made the tiniest amount of same-sex experiences as automatically not straight, how guys only get the right to call themselves straight when they've never tested that theory, when male bisexuality is viewed as a "highway to gay", when there's gatekeepy bs like gold star lesbianism etc. etc., it should become understandable where i'm coming from.
Not even saying this guy can't identify as straight, I just went through the exact same thoughts of "stolen valor" when I figured out I was bi in the past year.