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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Uh, why not? I think it's fine if people feel the need to be a little careful about pronouns around trans people. It's such a minimum-effort thing to consider someone's pronouns anyway, whatever. Not caring about pronouns is cool tho nia-peace

Oh, yeah I didn't consider that. I'm really incredibly bad at giving compliments cause I'm awkward as fuck, but I try anyway cause Idk, it'd be cool to make someone feel nice. I get +100 dopamine and +1000 confidence when I get compliments, people do not abuse my affinity for being complimented enough. When people say my hair is amazing or that I look awesome in thigh high boots, that shit's better than any high I could achieve cat-trans

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Uh, why not?

I totally agree with you, but I can't help being stupid about it anyways.

When people say my hair is amazing or that I look awesome in thigh high boots, that shit’s better than any high I could achieve

Most compliments I've typically received as an egg have been related to my appearance I disliked and sometimes explicitly masculine-coded compliments. But I had no clue why I disliked them so much (nor did I get why sometimes there were exceptions where I did like them...). Also, a lot of "compliments" about being (school) smart are just backhanded insults imo and/or people presuming I look down on them. Either way, I still have the emotional feeling of compliments = bad.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago

It's fine, just dw about it :) IMO it's a basic social courtesy to be considerate of people's pronouns, and everyone deserves it.

Oh yeah that would be less than pleasant aubrey-pain I totally get why you'd dislike compliments if that's been your experience of them, which sucks meow-hug sorry...