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Hope it was a great week everyone. Hopefully this one is even better. cat-trans

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[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 10 points 7 months ago (1 children)

sorry if this is weird, no pressure if you don't wanna answerIt should at least be very physically possible for you to get phalloplasty, right? Adding my hopes to yours for getting this sorted cat-trans

[โ€“] Yor@hexbear.net 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

not weird at allYeah, I can get phallo and that will be the plan one day unless there's some incredible alternative that gets developed. There are some issues tho.

  • my urethra has already been messed with, so I was advised by my previous surgeon that urethra lengthening (to pee out of it) is high risk. UL is already a higher risk part too without my issue
  • I was also told scrotoplasty may not work out due to not having as much to work with as an afab vagina. the words high risk came up again when talking about complications ๐Ÿ˜”
  • I'm also not fond of the idea of having a big scar on my arm, also needing to using en erectile device. tho I'm not really in a position to negotiate

complaints aside, I still think it would be better than the sadness I have with a vagina, so one day it will be gone

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

While we're asking invasive questions, and you're okay answering them (if you're not okay answering I completely understand)

spoilerWhy did you get a vagina? Obviously you must have thought you'd like it, why do you think that you thought you'd like it? Did you feel pressured to get it done?

I'm leaning towards being transfem of some stripe, and while bottom surgery would be a long way off, I would like to know why people who get it and regret it had it done.

high risk

๐Ÿ˜” I hope things work out for you.

[โ€“] Yor@hexbear.net 8 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

I don't mind talking about itAt some point in my transition I grew to hate being trans. I loved my trans friends, but wanted to deny my identity and be as close to cis as possible. I went deep stealth and only a couple people knew I wasn't cis. I really let gender essentialism brainworms run rampant and felt stressed whenever I fell out of my own strict guidelines. I had experiences that should have told me otherwise, but I ignored them. It was only after my recovery period ended and the dust settled that everything came crashing down and tbf it's been a very hard 1.5 years since. I'm trying to figure out the right way to fix this now

On a positive note - I like being trans and feel connected to my community now (and am quite open about it)

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

:meow-hug: that makes a lot of sense, I'm glad you like being trans/the community now.

[โ€“] Yor@hexbear.net 6 points 7 months ago

Me too! It's been very healing in many ways

[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sorry I missed your reply, inbox shenanigans. I wanted to say thank you for sharing this and fielding my dumb question, I always greatly appreciate hearing about people's experiences and perspectives cat-trans Once more wishing you luck in all future endeavours

[โ€“] Yor@hexbear.net 4 points 7 months ago

Thank you transshork-happy I'm going to figure something out, I'm sure of it