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About 49,500 people took their own lives last year in the U.S., the highest number ever, according to new government data posted Thursday.

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[–] whats_a_refoogee@sh.itjust.works 139 points 1 year ago (13 children)

I will probably get shit for this, since it's a predominantly left leaning space, but until society starts acknowledging men's issues it will keep getting worse.

https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics

In 2021, men died by suicide 3.90x more than women.

In 2021, firearms accounted for 54.64% of all suicide deaths.

This article is an excellent example of what I am talking about. It does not even mention the disparity of suicide rates between the sexes despite it obviously being a huge outlier. Instead, they talk about how guns are the problem, even though a gun is just a method.

Taking away the easy methods to commit suicide might reduce the rate, but it does nothing to address to core issues that make people want to kill themselves in the first place. Instead of 5000 dead people you will have 5000 people who wish they were dead. Mission accomplished.

[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 104 points 1 year ago (2 children)

but until society starts acknowledging men’s issues it will keep getting worse.

Good news. We've moved on from 'man hating' on the left. Intersectional Feminism actually espouses the fact that men are also harmed by the patriarchy and all the ridiculous demands that it puts on us, like not feeling feelings. You should look into it.

[–] Thorry84@feddit.nl 58 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Free mental healthcare is a pretty leftist stance I think? Solving social issues and getting people the resources and care they need seems like a good way to solve the suicide issue and that's 100% what the left is all about.

[–] TunaCowboy@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Free mental healthcare is a pretty leftist stance I think?

Yes, pro universal healthcare and also pro 2A, liberals not so much.

[–] Donjuanme@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Hmmm, idk, as a liberal I'm a fan of a well regulated militia.

Not so much a fan of my serial abuser father and his gun collection. His father killed himself a few years ago, that greatly increases his chances of suicide, and his type is likely to go out "in a blaze of glory".

I'm all for universal health care, but his court required therapy was "just government indoctrination", you can't help everyone, but you can regulate their ability to hurt others.

But I guess that makes me anti 2a, either with you or against you right?

[–] Thymos@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago

Free mental healthcare is a great idea, but it will only partially solve the problem. Men tend to use mental healthcare way less than women. Where I live (where it's basically free) there are some efforts to get men into programs, like support groups specifically for men, but these don't change the situation much. There needs to be a cultural change as well, aside from societal improvements to better everybody's lives.

[–] loom_in_essence@lemmy.world -2 points 1 year ago

Is there evidence that mental healthcare lowers the chances of suicide?

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 54 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I will probably get shit for this, since it's a predominantly left leaning space, but until society starts acknowledging men's issues it will keep getting worse.

???

What left leaning circles have you been in? I think we all know men have issues too?

[–] Very_Bad_Janet@kbin.social 40 points 1 year ago

I can't think of a single left leaning space that is not concerned or empathetic about the mental health of men. I can think of several right leaning spaces that dismiss men's mental health struggles with "stop being a snowflake and man up."

[–] livus@kbin.social 26 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It also does not even mention the disparity of suicide stats between different ethnic groups.

US demographics use "race" instead of ethnicity but the stats still point to a massive disparity with American Indian or Alaska Natives having suicide rates in the 20s (compared to overall rates of around 14 -14.9 per 100,000). Black and Hispanic people also have higher suicide rates.

[–] reddithalation@sopuli.xyz 25 points 1 year ago

I think the majority of ppl want that stuff better for everyone, toxic masculinity hurts women and men. there's definitely some very vocal sexists on both sides though

[–] ultimate_question@lemmy.world 25 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

It's worth noting that also according to that article women attempt suicide 1.3x as often as men -- but men are more likely to use guns so they end up dying more. It seems to me guns are a core part of the issue

[–] CrypticFawn@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So let's pretend we get rid of guns; now we have thousands of people that still wish they were dead. Some will find other ways to die.

That's the point the other poster was making. We gotta treat the core problems, not just the symptoms.

[–] huginn@feddit.it 4 points 1 year ago

Except the core poster says men have it worse when objectively women are attempting suicide more often.

[–] FireTower@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

The issue isn't that people are committing suicide with firearms, or even that they're committing suicide. The issue is that people are miserable and hate their lives.

Technology has us more isolated from each other and people have less friends now than they did 20 years ago.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 19 points 1 year ago (3 children)

The only reason a "left leaning" space would argue with you over that is when you start blaming women or feminism for mens issues.

As a man who is suicidal pretty much constantly, I know my issues are my own. I've failed, not society, but I also know that 5000 people who wish they were dead aren't dead yet and so there's still a chance things can change. I'd say gun control can be part of the solution, but I do also agree that we should be discussing what makes people suicidal and especially seeing why one segment of a population feels it more than others.

For me personally, I just feel like a complete failure in all aspects of life and can't find any direction that I care to pursue to get me "on track." I'm also such a mixed bag of 1000 different "types" that I have something for everyone to dislike as far as finding a partner. I would never blame women for wanting what they want, so while I enjoy my interests and stand firm in not wanted to live with a dog, I just have to accept that I'm not anyone's cup of tea.

So tldr on that bit, I'm the problem, not society.

[–] antibrian@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago

You exist, and you are who you are, and that is ok. You may believe that you have failed, and feel guilty or ashamed of that, and that's ok too. You sound lonely, rejected, and really hurt by your experiences, "something for everyone to dislike". These feelings suck, but internalizing them and telling yourself that you are a problem can be really unhelpful. You are worthy of acceptance, with what flaws you see in yourself. This isn't really a great forum for personal, intimate discussion, but I do hope you can talk about your experiences with someone you trust.

[–] fadingembers@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 year ago

Hey man, you don't have to hold the world up by itself. Not everything is your responsibility. In fact a lot of what people are saying here that are causing these spikes are a result of isolation and society failing our people. All out individualism isn't that great for people. We need interdependence because we can't do this all alone. We need that sense of community that has all but been demolished. It's good that you aren't blaming others for your problems, but also, society could be more helpful/beneficial to you instead of kicking you to the curb instead of making everything seem hopeless. It could provide you the tools to climb out instead of leaving you in the well.
All this to say, is that please don't be ashamed to ask for help. None of us would've gotten this far without help from others.

[–] borkcorkedforks@kbin.social 7 points 1 year ago

One aspect you might have to separate is the gun control advocates who just want to cite another reason for X or Y policies. Those people aren't necessarily advocating for mental health.

As an example take waiting periods. They might do something for first time buyers but the policy doesn't really make sense for the people who already have a safe full of guns to pick from. I don't hear those people talk about programs like "hold my guns" either.

[–] iyaerP@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well, since gun control in this country is basically verboten, one of the simplest ways to reduce suicide is a non-starter.

[–] Impassionata@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I know you mean well but you're like the person who makes suicidal tendencies more powerful because you want to shut all the windows in a burning building because you personally find falling bodies less aesthetically pleasing than burning ones.

[–] Rose@lemmy.world -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As someone who thinks that people should have the right to end their life, I still think guns might be an issue because they can make it very quick and allow no time to think it through. Even some of the other accessible methods take some preparation, and each step is a chance to think again.

[–] Impassionata@lemmy.world -1 points 1 year ago

I understood this perspective already. You'd rather process suicide into a pipeline in which "reasonable" suicide is more common than deal with the factors driving people to suicide.

Your need to control the "problem" is part of the overbearing control driving people to suicide. It's my opinion that you'd be better off accepting the choice and not trying to second-guess men who shoot themselves, even if they're drunk, impulsive, or any manner of "irrational" about it. (Rationality is a myth designed to sell more socially approved behaviors.)

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

No one talks about why women go through with suicide less, either. One of the reasons can very likely be that more women are the caregiver of their parents or children since the bigger number of men who commit suicide stems from the amount of men who are lonely but who also do not have to care for other people.

until society starts acknowledging men’s issues

I wonder what gives you the impression that society doesn't acknowledge men's issues?

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social -3 points 1 year ago

I agree with you in the sense much left leaning conversation tends to tribalize to specific groups. Im super left leaning but I want things that benefit everyone. universal healthcare, universal education, publicization of anything that is to essential or without robust enough competition to be run by the market, citizens income. Gun control as a local issue (you can't bring guns into my house, you can't bring guns into my business, you can't bring guns into our town, you can't bring guns into our state) and federal (limitations on capability especially rate of fire, clip size, electronic assist). Legalization of suicide along with all other bodily autonomy. I find both sides like to look at things as this group or that group but I want general things myself.