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What's a good way to tell people who ask for my contact info that I don't do social media without sounding unintentionally condescending? (hexbear.net)
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Sometimes people I just met (in a platonic context) will ask me things like "hey, what's your Instagram, let's keep in touch!"

My standard answer is that I don't do social media, but I have found that people take it as bragging perhaps? I get answers like "oh, good for you! I wish I didn't" or whatever.

If I say oh here's my number that seems too odd these days, people not that much younger than me (I'm 31) don't seem to text anymore. They use fb messenger or Instagram or others.

Also saying something like "I'm a privacy advocate and I use the fediverse" is also an odd thing to say unless I'm around techy people and even then it's weird tbh.

How do I approach this? I don't think I am better than people that use social media, its just not for me. I would prefer to text but I am not sure that works for a lot of people.

Or should I just bite the bullet and get an Instagram so that I don't seem weird, and then perhaps ask for further contact details via that platform?

Abstaining from social media can be extremely alienating.

autistic btw if you couldn't tell lmao, I have spent a lot of time thinking about this problem

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[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 38 points 7 months ago (1 children)

"I don't have online, and I don't do the emails".

[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 21 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I got to say this verbatim to an employer when I had gotten hired and didn't have an internet connection and wasn't really planning on one at the time and he said that's how schedules were sent out. He just texted me my schedule.

[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Haha awesome.

[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 10 points 7 months ago

I had a free rental for stolen food system going at the last video rental place in town which existed so long because it was 4 stories tall and a well established landmark as well as the absolute perfect movie rental place. They had literally everything on every format, a fantastic sorting and arrangement system, the staff kicked ass and knew their movies hard cause it was a highly sought after gig in town and you could talk movies for hours in a great environment where you could walk around and find the boxes or whatever for what you're talking about and check the back for cast or whatever instead of Google g it. So with that nearby I didn't feel the need to pay $80 a month for internet. I'd then gotten used to telling people I'd meet that quote as a gag and then it just kinda because my default response.