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As a European from elsewhere in Europe, I'm never going back to Milan. Maybe it's fine if you're into fashion, but if you're not there's not much to look at except a cathedral which resembles every other cathedral, and it's impossible to get a photo of it without also having a friendship bracelet scammer in the frame, actively harassing you.
All tourist locations in Italy and France have people trying to scam you (and some non-scammers just trying to sell you cheap toys), but Milan is the only place I've been to where they're straight up harassing you non-stop. Go to Pisa instead, it's super relaxing there and you can marvel at their past mistakes in structural engineering. A far better deal.
Scammers abroad: Troll with randomness. Laugh at inappropriate times. Nod at them while making the eating food gesture. Randomly start pointing down a street like you're trying to give directions but just shrug. Pick a random sports team name and say, "Gooooo EAGLES!" while nodding and dancing. Basically pick some random thing, pretend they said it, and you're going along with it.
If they're pointing to friendship braclets, you say "9 o'clock." even though it's 1:30. If they keep doing it, you just laugh, nod, and clap.
My favourite is pretending I'm deaf and making up signing. When they start gesturing, I repeat the gesture in shock. When they nod, I act disgusted like they're sick in the head.
They will very quickly move on since you're a waste of time. The more awkward you make it, the better, especially if you're drawing looks from others.
I've used very similar techniques on men in bars who don't think no is a complete sentence.
I'm well past the age for shame. I will make a fool of myself if it means some twerp will think twice about harassing a woman who's repeatedly turned them down
I'd never considered doing the same for scammers - great idea! I'm just overly polite and that makes me seem like a target I think.
I have personally yelled, "Fuck off! No means no you fucking creep!" at the top of my lungs in a crowded bar. It was genuine, but over the top so every other person would turn and see them, ruining their chances of "picking up" at that establishment, forcing them to leave.
"Are you okay?"
"Oh, yeah I'm fine. That guy just needed to learn a fucking lesson."
That is hilarious but too much effort. A simple 'Fuck off' should suffice.
That does work too, but not on the ones that put shit on you and demand payment, usually operating as 2+. Their tactic is intimidation and drama—playing the victim to you—but it can not be beaten if you're playing the role of a happy idiot, providing random or exact opposite behaviour to what they're attempting.
One of these guys walked up and gave me a handful of birdseed, prompting a flock of pigeons to come perch on my arms. I most certainly did not hand over the money they wanted for the experience I didn’t ask for and was somewhat disgusted by.
I'd imagine stealing your passport or wallet would be the real goal there.
I just don't engage. You don't have to talk back and they get the hint rather quickly that there are more rubes nearby.
Pisa is bad too, it is just the tower and crazy tourist prices.
How about Venice?
Venice kind of has a Disneyland vibe.
There aren't any scammers, the place is filled with history, and is relatively well kept and run. The flip side to it is that feels like a theme park at times.
It also has Disneyland prices.
I was in Venice pre-covid. I spent a day walking around and soaking in the sights and sounds. Sat by myself for an hour listening to some guy play the chello. It was beautiful. Never got harassed by street peddlers or scammers unlike in Milan. The architecture was beautiful like nothing else. Its a city trapped in the Renaissance era.
Terrible, not a real city, like the other person said, feels more like a theme park for tourists. Already did 20 years ago, last time i've been, never going back.
Pisa has a few other places, but you can see the city in a day and not miss anything.
We were in the mood for a chill day, so it was nice to just chill in a park and walk through some random old neighborhoods until we stumbled across a restaurant. There's nothing chill about Milan, though, at least not where a clueless tourist would find it.
I liked the middle finger statue
Funny you should say that; I went to Florence some years back and we took a day trip to Pisa and had to deal with the worst, most aggressive scammers I've ever experienced.
We may have just gotten lucky. I also had a great time in Venice once by wandering off randomly and ending up somewhere I can only assume tourists don't normally go. We bought some fruit off a boat which was both delicious and very affordable, so I assume the target demographic was not tourists. I'm pretty sure that's not the universal experience of Venice either.
I really enjoyed visiting Cimiteiro Monumentale in Milan. A historic cemetery with lots of lavishishly designed huge tombs. Very few tourists there and no scammers whatsoever.