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I just remind myself of a few key principles:
Just gotta find what keeps you going. It's different for everyone.
The universe may not care about me, but there are people in it who do
These are really striking words for me. Thank you !!
I don't remember where I originally heard this from, but the Serenity Prayer has helped me get through some tough times
"Oh God, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what can not be helped, and insight to know the one from the other"
I know it begins with "God", but I found it applicable to my life without requesting anything from God.
Epictitus suggested that the world consists of two things, those you can assert control over and those you cannot. In order to lead a good life, you shouldn't spend energy on the things you have no control over. I've had a couple real bad stretches, but when things turn pear shaped, I take account of the things I have control over and what I don't.
Be realistic - whatever it is, it will pass. It's not necessary to understand why something has happened to accept that it has happened. If you can understand it, great, but quite a lot of things in life aren't dependent on things you do or don't do and trying to understand those things will drive you mad.
Bad things happen but so do good things. Kipling wrote:
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same.
Meaning, exceptionally good things and exceptionally bad things are comparatively rare and looking for reasons can sometimes be an exercise in futility. A bird didn't decide to pose as an agent of evil and target you to take a shit on, all that happened was a bird dropped a load when you happened to be walking there.
In the meantime, do things you enjoy. Go to the pub with your mates, re-read a comforting book, listen to music - whatever. And once it's passed - because it will - exert control over the things you can control that will make you happy.
I talk about it to friends and family. Most things have happened to people you already know.
I go to the orange and black website and forget about everything
😂 thank you for the laugh today kind human.
Basically, do what you can, don't do what you can't. Shit happens, however you want to rationalize it, it still happens.
If I'm still breathing, I'm fine.
I call one of my friends and talk to them
I rely on the bonds I've built with other people
I try to balance by adding joy to my life and others around me. Loving people, laughing, and a sense of humor about myself helps. Life has a random element. I also try to concentrate attention on the good and what I can control. I have an insatiable curiosity about everything, that keeps me busy, in the meantime.
We all have a limited time in this life, and at some point in the next two hundred years, are certain to recycle our atoms to nature.
acceptance. hiding my problems behind made up deities will only make things worse when I have to confront them.
I tend to hyperfocus on things I can control and/or try to learn a new skill. Both are distractions, but you can't control what you can't control. Obsessing over those things leads to dark places. Sometimes, mental judo helps. You can reframe a situation that seems terrible by looking at it from another context. Unfortunately, it's hard to give examples for this.
Said the rich man to the poor man, and the poor man to the rich; "this too shall pass"
This will be over soon.
You're the one in control of whether things go down or up the hill in your life, not some mystical entity. If shit goes downhill, you just have to deal with it, praying to the gods won't fix your life or make you money, only you can do that... Nothing more to it, really.
That's how I think about it, anyways...
Constantly contemplate suicide until the idea of suicide is boring
