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"It is what it is."
It is lazy, circular, a cop out and means next to nothing. Vague enough to pass as a wise quip, to some. It is not.
Also not so much a saying per sé, but people who use quotes of famous people at the bottom or ends of emails. As if that implies a personality. If you are going to use something you think sounds smart, at least try to come up with that something yourself.
Enshittification. Everyone just learned a new word and has to use it at least once in every comment section to feel smart.
But yet it explains so much about the modern world. All this time we’ve been abused and mistreated, had our data collected and income extracted in so many scammy ways ….. and now we have a word that fits it so perfectly
Okay but if we use "Late stage capitalism and the quest for profit above all else is causing the quality of goods and commodities to drop while their value stays the same or goes up," it's going to result in 20 minutes trying to explain things correctly followed by 20 hours of anti-communist arguments.
It's the enshittification of internet discussion
Literally could care less.
'Should of" instead of "should've"
Oh God that's got to be the worst one.
Not specifically a word, but i hate when people mix english with their native language
Its especially worse when they use words that are nearly identical
Kiddos, especially when used by people in professions that work with kids. Right up there with people who unironically say pupper or doggo. Just say kids.
"Karen"
The exception that proves the rule.
People use it in a way where counterexample proofs that the rule exist when it's supposed to mean that the rule also handles exceptional cases.
The replacement of the term “conspiracy theory” with just “conspiracy”.
That’s two different things. If we equate the two semantically we can’t discuss them.
“Cyber” 🙄
Oh yeah absolutely. I'm a programmer and I see so many companies and recruiters etc use Cyber instead of Cybersecurity. It drives me absolutely mad, but these type of people drive me mad anyways. It's probably the same crowd who ruined AI by overhyping it into its grave, the same crowd who were hyped by web 3.0 and the whole Blockchain craze, and probably all those other dumb crazes before it.
Still, this cyber thing seems to permeate everything, and I've heard people using the term who I otherwise respect. For me it's a quick way to instantly become very sceptical of whatever follows the term
I thought you'd never ask!
Please do the needful.
This one really grinds my gears! I think it's because the person can't even be bothered to describe what they want you to do, just go fix it and don't bother me with any details.
Indian here. Redditors say that Indians say this a lot. I'd like to tell you that while Indians do use this sentence, it's almost always placed only after a long, somewhat-gone-off-tangent-in-some-places conversation that explained everything well.
Maaaaaaybe it was to convince you without describing tasks, but... mostly, it's not so.
Also, I don't remember hearing it IRL at all. Just felt like I have heard it at least twice in my 18 years of humaning around.
But why use such an awkward construction? Why not "please handle this" or "please take care of this"? Or even "please take the necessary steps to address this"? "Please do the needful" is saying Please [VERB] the [ADJECTIVE]. But the correct construction is to verb a noun. So you need a noun (e.g., "this") to act on.
And additionally, "needful" is an adjective, and rarely ever used anyway. For example, you could probably describe a homeless person as "needful", but it sounds awkward, and most people would say "needy" or "in need."
Pronouncing realtor like "real-uhh-torrrrr"
I cringe so hard at the twitterist carebear-hugbox way of smugly claiming the intellectual high ground and shaming somebody:
"Be better." or "Do better."
The sentiment isn't terrible, but it's prevalent use is obviously just dripping with arrogance and thrown out in the most petty ways. Ugh!
They're the same types that appear in comment threads with contradictory arguments to literally fucking anything -
"We should save the whales"
"Yes but my cousin got splashed by a whale on a boat trip as a toddler and now has a terrible phobia that makes her wheeze whenever she sees one. Do you want that, is that what you want?"
"We should plan walkable cities"
"OH MY GOD SHES IN A WHEELCHAIR TOO DO YOU ONLY EVER THINK ABOUT YOURSELF YOU ABLEIST"
😂
My theory is that they're just unbelievably bo-o-o-o-oring, humourless people with nothing to add to a conversation but a desperate need for attention
"It is what it is"
I get the sentiment behind it, it's just usually so defeatist/dismissive of a situation to me.
That’s now how people in my subculture use it.
They use it to mean “it’s too late to avoid this problem; let’s talk about things we can change at this point”.
Example:
“If you hadn’t stopped at that rest area the killer never would have slashed our tires”
“Well if you hadn’t jumped for those cheap tires maybe he wouldn’t have been able to slash them with a butter knife”
“And if you’d paid for the triple A we’d have a ride by now”
“Look, it is what it is. Let’s just figure out a way to get back to town without having to follow the road”
"Oftentimes"
Its always interchangeable with Often. Just use Often.
"I could care less" to mean "I could NOT care less"
Same with "Do you mind doing x?" "Yeah sure"; so you mind doing it? I get what they mean with the response, but it annoys me every time haha
"Completely different" when the two things are actually very similar