Memes

I had lots of these situations on Steam.

I played a game, liked my time with a player, and they'd send me a friend request. But then it was daily messages about what I was doing, when I would play again, and often some sap story about why I'm important to them.

This was a constant thing that kept happening.

I used to be like that of wanting to mentor too. I wanted to help others get to where I'm at. Apparently a lot of these folks are serious energy vampires and I am always left mentally exhausted.

Kinda need to wake up to their own BS.

What a creep! Everyone knows you're supposed to ask for the cunt circumference, or circuntference

How did he not get kicked out for that? If not for sexual harassment, at least for failing to get IRB approval!

I don’t know what the hell is wrong with me. Probably childhood abandonment, abuse, and neglect.

My poor mom tried, she really did. She was abandoned, abused, and neglected too. A lot of things that would have seemed absurd to a healthy person were normal for her so she tolerated a lot and expected a lot. She suffered so much as a kid that whatever idea she had about family, she was sticking to.

I have no close friends and I LOVE it that way. I wish I didn’t.

Being alone is my favorite way to be. I can’t move in any direction in life because of it. Fortunately my wife wants me to be a stay at home dad. She isn’t crippled like I am and she loves me anyway, thank goodness.

Algorithmic social media just ruins everything. Once twitter and facebook started pulling out all the stops to keep us on their sites instead of letting us use them as a starting point to connect and/or simply augment our existing irl relationships.

The people with no or few friends tend to be weird but not really bad in any meaningful way: socially awkward, shy, odd interests, neurodivergent etc. Difficult to get to know, plain and simple.

*Raises hand*

Yeah I'd like to think I'm not a bad person. I just have intense social anxiety. The only way I've made friends are when chatty people tend to talk to me and invite me to things. I've always appreciated when people do this, but then I just don't retain the friendship when I or they have moved across the country or when we've moved into different life stages (ex: graduating from high school or college or changing jobs). I'm fortunate enough to have a friend now who is just nice and talks to me. Prior to that I didn't have anyone for a while outside of my online friends. Some of us are really just terrified of other human beings is all.

Part of this is that I have always an intense paranoia of appearing too clingy, so I never invite anyone else out to do things. Notice how one of the commenters said they broke off a friendship because the other person was too clingy. Well I just break it off first by never engaging because I don't want them to think I'm too clingy or weird. Even now with the one friend I have I fear that I text too much or bother them too much or things like that. I try to limit myself and leave them alone but I never know where the line is between never speaking and between speaking too much.

So I just chill alone I guess.

Idk man, the people with no friends and the people with a lot of friends and even the people with a middle amount of friends seem to follow a standard distribution of personalities.

Some awkward people and some charismatic people just suck. Some awkward people and some charismatic people are awesome. But most of all, people are just kinda shades of in-between.

When I was in high school there was only one kid with no friends and he was racist

Idk why in imagining them telling a version of the aristocrat's and then saying, "So anyway, that's my roommates."

Now I want to know the joke

*fewer

Domain checks out

Honestly, the number of lonely people is probably far greater than you can imagine. I remember reading a statistic from a local male suicide prevention group that said a third of all men have no close friends either nearby or at all. Include people with friends that are still feeling lonely, and obviously other genders, and you're easily looking at most people being lonely.

Many of my close friends moved away for work, and I'll be doing the same soon. Most of them don't even know that I have a child now, let alone regularly speak. It's quite sad really, and it only seems to get worse when you get older.

I had a brilliant idea for a app during college. It connected self-identified lonely nerds with other self-identified lonely nerds. Like "Oh you like anime, here is this other guy, and here are five events you can attend together." I was hoping for that Zuckerberg money if this app was a hit.

I ran it through a test trial with a dozen pairings of them in my college campus to see if it had value.

And yeah, a lot of the feedback was that the other person was kind of annoying/intolerable. Which was funny when both of them said that about each other.