Contrast with Foreplay
and place where Phone Sex falls between them, if it indeed does fall into these categories.
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How the hell would I know what flirting is
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You know it when you see it
then why'd i make the post????
Flirting is showing or reciprocating sexual or romantic interest in a way that is intentionally ambiguous. It’s a way for people to gauge interest with one another without obligating either party to make any sort of direct commitment or statement of interest. Any party can choose to not reciprocate or disengage without needing to make it overt, and thus avoid embarrassment or misunderstanding.
Eventually someone has to make some sort of overture to either establish mutual interest or rejection of interest, but flirting is sort of the quantum superposition between interest and non-interest (look up ‘Schrödinger’s Date’ for the most extreme example of this).
Foreplay is the build up to actually engaging in sexual intimacy of some sort. Unlike flirting, mutual interest has already been established. More importantly, foreplay happens after, or in the process of, some form of mutual consent. Without consent it’s just assault/harassment, obviously. Depending on your relationship dynamic, flirting might be part of foreplay.
Phone sex is purely contextual. It’s either flirting or foreplay depending on whether or not it leads to sex, whatever your definition of “sex” is.
flirting is sort of the quantum superposition between interest and non-interest
Checking for Chemistry with somebody
Checking for Entanglement with somebody
bad QM pickup lines
You must have quantum effects because you got my heart all entangled.
Are we entangled because you leave me spinning whenever I observe you.
What is flirting?
Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me
No more
Ooooooo aaahhh oooooo ahhhhh
Uhhhh uhhhh
Ooooooo aahhhh ooooooo ahhhh
Uhhh uhhhhh
Flirting is playful banter with an amorous bent
Foreplay is active contact as a prelude to sexual contact
Phone sex is somewhere between the two I reckon
Phone sex is somewhere between the two I reckon
it's quite confounding, necessarily there is not contact but it's like more sexual than foreplay, like 
is there a goddamn generator for these or are you home cooking 
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Flirting is signalling and maneuvering to test and tell interest while being socially deniable enough for everyone involved to ignore without social consequences if the it doesn't lead to anything.
Foreplay on the other hand is often physical and distinctly sexual. An act of foreplay without consent would earn you social consequences, an act of flirting will not, unless you've been asked not to do so or there are other factors that make the flirting inappropriate.
The difference in how far one goes before becoming the other is entirely based on the social consequences line.
The difference in how far one goes before becoming the other is entirely based on the social consequences line
this is actually gets to the core of what i've been thinking about, watching some older TV, that included what I would consider unacceptable 'flirting'.
The thing I'm so bad at that it confirms my undiagnosed autism
Aw man. I’ve never had an autism diagnosis, but the fact that some of these comments read like a foreign language confirms the fact that you don’t always need a professional diagnosis
It is reassuring to know that there are others who share the same struggle though (please show yourself in real life)
Flirting is a series of subtextual promises that neither party means, until they do.
Phone sex is 100% foreplay. Foreplay is explicitly erotic. Flirting can be one sided foreplay cannot. Flirting is friendly and non-committal.
flirting is when you shoot someone with a staple gun and they like it
flirting is when you shoot someone with a staple gun ~~and~~ to see they like it. If they say "more" then its foreplay.
dialectical synthesis
e: tagline material
According to a bunch of really annoying colleagues throughout my life its when you talk to someone of the opposite gender in any capacity.
Or if you're a kid then really annoying parents will profess its when a kid of the opposite gender bullies you.
From what i understand its when you say nice things to someone you're interested in and see of they say it back but it can also be misconstrued as just being friendly. I wouldn't know i don't know what flirting is i have the autism