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there's something primal about tinkering with electronics that keeps me working in embedded software even though I've grown to dislike low level programming
IDK why but I always feel really weepy after laser sessions. I think it's physically unpleasant, but it also makes me immanently aware of my facial hair in a way I rarely am. But the results are sooo worth it! My family is distantly from the Mediterranean and I have had a full beard since 18. I wish I would have finished during my first run at laser, but I am committed to staying the course this time.
Base naruto leaf village music is stuck in my head on loop
tfw you will never get ramen from the shop in konohagakure
also had to look up what konohagakure was since I'm dub only
just received a physical copy of our megathread feature so i can actually finish it. realizing my ADHD isn't too friendly with audiobooks so excited to finally finish it!
Aurora (one of our system members) wrote a thing: Sternenlied
its GAY so you should read it!
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between these two guitars which would you buy
https://www.epiphone.com/en-US/p/Electric-Guitar/EPI8U8980/Tobacco-Burst
I'm drawn to the LPJ for the (idea of its) simplicity, but on paper the Gretsch would be more versatile, also I like the look a bit more
fwiw I have a squier stat with 3 single coils in the typical strat config, but I like using the bridge only most often, which is why I feel like even tough the gretsch would be more versatile, the LPJ would still suit me fine
introspection on libido/sexuality, sex stuff (not explicit), a bit sad. looking for advice.
over the last year and a half or so, my sex drive has been mostly very low. i don't really feel sexual attraction to other people like i used to. i have long-term depression and it's something i've always struggled with, but much more intense the last couple of years. i hardly feel like a sexual being. i'm on 200mg prog and i only get horny once or twice a month, i get myself off and enjoy it. i've been considering that i may fit into the ace spectrum, but this is an idea i've been struggling to accept. i want to feel sexual attraction. i want to feel like a sexual being. but it's felt totally muted for a while now. there are other aspects than physiological, i definitely have some catholic brainworms and shit about sex. but i can't help but feel like the main factor is HRT, as my sex drive and proclivity for sexual attraction has seemed to gradually dwindle over the past few years. i was really excited to get on prog because of the mythical horny but it didn't really happen. i'm also on CPA and already halved my prescribed dose to no avail. T levels are still on the floor so maybe i could try reducing that even further.
what i'd like to ask is, does anyone have any advice on combating this? i feel like maybe eating better and exercising might help, i'm NEET and really depressed and sedentary so that's probably a factor too. i guess if anyone has gone through something similar and managed to rediscover the horny i'd love to hear about it. like i used to fuck loads in my first year and a half or so of transition and i loved it. i wanna go back to that. but it feels almost like a different person now. idk.
just some things that have worked for me lately
honestly, i doubt any of this will be relateable or helpful but at the very least i hope you feel seen.
i have been struggling with this. i was on 300mg spiro for a number of years and it i thought it had suppressed my sex drive, but when i switched to CPA things started changing for me, i think? but years ago i was kind of insatiable.
i find that arousal for me if a longer-term thing, vs an "in the moment" thing. if i read something that really tingles me, it'll start the little steam engine in my chest in a way that's difficult to ignore. it seems for me that my arousal needs time to breathe and needs to be more stoked like a fire. i think i enjoy the feeling of it building more than the release of orgasm. there's also like a kink element sometimes to it too, and there's a specific tone of voice that really works on me, too.
i started to put this picture together in the past few months - i thought i was acespike or even entirely asexual for a while because of how little of the kind of fantasy i needed to engage with i was engaging with. now i'm not really sure but i know there's at least more to it than just an alarm clock that goes off in my head that says i need to sex.
my therapist talked about the ideas of "brakes" and "accelerators" in sex - you know, classic stuff. brakes, for example, like your parents coming home, kill arousal. accelerators, for example, [insert secret fantasies here], will build arousal. i don't know if any of that would be helpful to you but separating these two kinds of inputs has been helpful for me.
i can't deny that mood could be a factor, though. for me, brakes also include a lot of second-guessing and performance anxiety, which can really make me anxious enough to not be able to be in the moment and enjoy. explicit roles helps me with that, letting someone else take the lead, etc.
thank you for the kind words, some of this is definitely useful for me to reflect on.
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i think i can relate to the longer term, "stoking the fire" thing. when i read stuff that turns me on i definitely feel the slow burn building up and when it's burning i can start to feel capable of active irl horny. could be something to explore more from that perspective. i can relate to the kink stuff and needing roles, etc. as that's always been a thing for me too with sex, and something i'm accustomed to already but maybe my tastes have changed a bit and that's an aspect i need to reflect on. i think maybe i just need to kind of take a clean slate approach and figure out what works for me at this later stage in transition due to changing preferences as well as my diminished ability to just become insta-horny. probably something to try to adjust to, come to terms with to some extent and work on cultivating a new approach that works for me as i am now, instead of trying to just revert to young super-horny me, if that makes sense. i haven't had sex for a while either so it's probably something i need to get back into at a steady pace rather than trying to rush. your response was very thoughtful and thought-provoking, i really appreciate it!
I think I may have just cooked up some new type of sex toy/BDSM wear but I have no idea if it already exists but it feels so obvious that I'm pretty sure it does but I've never heard of it...
I'll post MS paint doodles of it later after work
EDIT: made a post in the new general megathread
Pretty much just get good at being a rope top and you can design all sorts of goodies. Unless you want to bottom for rope, I guess you gotta find someone who'd tie it then. I bet there's even a Shibari thing that's basically what you designed
So it turns out my sperm is totally poggers. I think I'm just gonna have to do the whole thing including the extra legwork to get FDA clearance in case it needs to be used with a surrogate. It'll cost like 1k up front and then "no more than 400/yr" for storage
I just hate hate hate hate taking options away from myself, there is no worse feeling for me than realizing I can't do or have something because of a stupid decision I made in the past
grabbed a copy of this book thanks for the rec Eco! Very engaging right off the bat!
edit: a couple chapters in and loving it