LGBTQ+

I just thought "damn, Gender sucks" and now my gender is just silliness :3

For me, I spent thirty years in the closet waffling back and forth between "am I a boy or am I girl" before I finally decided that I must be a secret third thing

For me, "non-binary" is a pretty cool label because it's a non-label. And at the end of the day, I'm kind of about defying expectations so a non-label is perfect for me. It doesn't serve me to have my life experience put in some little box to make other people more comfortable

If labels are helpful to you, then sure, it's worth exploring. But labels can hold you back too. At the end of the day, a person is far more complex and interesting than any label they might have assigned to them

Although I do understand that it's not actually correct, "everyone is a little bisexual," does seem to line up with my experiences and biases. However, "everyone is a little non-binary" does not, so if you feel a little bit that way then congratulations! You're one of the special humans and that's worth celebrating

I never cared for gendered roles as a child but I distinctly remember how often I would get laughed at or pointed out as strange for it, or even pressured by other children and some adults. I also remember observing other children feeling miserable because they failed to be boy/girl enough in some activities, or that somehow I was the only one who could spend time with both girls and boys, other children in my school always stayed with their own gender, and always had weird talks about the opposite gender as if they couldn't understand each other wich made no sense to me.

Because of that I managed to grow up with an early notion that gender is an ideal that doesn't fully apply to anybody, regardless of how much they think it does, that it's somekind of weird social norm. I was relieved when we studied it later in high school, while some of my classmates had their mind blown I was only thinking «okay it's not some weird secret only I know» xD

But it's only when I was 25 that a friend told me I must be agender, so yeah maybe I realised some things quite early in life but nothing was perfectly clear to me nonetheless.

I was just now thinking through the pros and cons, and it popped into my head, "On the one hand, I would most definitely rather not have a gender..."

Oh.

I didn't decide I was nonbinary, I discovered it due to the fact that sometimes I would feel masculine, sometimes agender, and often feminine. Genderfluid, and, to a less precise extent, nonbinary, is just a description of that.

This article was the final nail in the coffin in my journey towards being agender: https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/so-you-found-out-youre-agender-because-you-don-t-understand-trans-people-886fdee6f178

I never decided it. As soon as I was old enough to know there was a difference between "male" and "female", I knew I couldn't force myself to fit either category. This was actually a huge source of stress as a child.

Does binary refer to gender or sex?