Noise machine with rain sounds and cozy youtube videos playing on the phone.
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I listen to lore videos about slop like Warhammer. This channels videos are great sleep content too.
I started reading science fiction and fantasy books exclusively before bed and it helped me. There's something very nice about books that are not located in our reality; there is a different world with different rules and you can kind of get lost in there and let your own real world thoughts be put to the side. I usually fall asleep pretty quickly now. The only downside is that sometimes I wake up the next day with my bedlight on and my face in a book.
I personally like camping videos. A channel called Tahta Rikzy Origma has some chill ones in some southeast Asian country, always in very dense and green forests; another one called Kusk Bushcraft has vídeos of camping in forests in Canada. Both help me a lot to sleep when I'm stressed out.
I put on something really mind numbing and calm to warch. I guess that podcasts could be used as well.
I listen to music and take melotonin to try and speed the process up. And usually only start trying to fall asleep when I'm already really tired.
I don't want to compete in the suffering Olympics with you, I only say this to say that I empathize, if only in part with your suffering. We're going to say goodbye to our dog soon. In the soon after another tragedy befell me. Then I see all the rancid shit that Trump was doing. It was the worst 30 day span of the previous decade for me. I was having panic attacks and crying every day. It felt unearned, I expected karma to make suffering like that the consequences of my own actions instead of just simple circumstance. I didn't fuck around but I still found out.
Again, not to compare scars but to highlight that what I say may be easier said than done, but I really believe it's the way. There was someone who had a beautiful quote I've digested completely and forgot about whose beautiful artistry renders the idea that "if you don't feel suffering it'll find you during a beautiful day at the park." So if you spend your day avoiding it, when you lay down to rest the sadness washes over you like a haze demanding your undivided attention. I would go to BJJ where there was no room for feeling my life situation and the millisecond I stepped onto the sidewalk outside my sadness came back. That's manageable and reasonable. It was perhaps good that I was capable of stepping out of it if only for an hour instead of an unbroken streak.
But to the point (I actually believe this) the solution may be to take some time to sit with the pain and really feel it. To truly just sit down to witness the physical component of your suffering. Where is it? In your chest? Does it make your breath shallow? What does it feel like when tears well up? Feel the panic take hold. Can you still breathe? It's fine to not have the answers to your questions right now; some things are uncertain and others are certainly not in your favor. When your thoughts distract you, decide to terminate the thought compassionately to return to feeling it. But if you spend some time really being witness to the haze, maybe it will let up when it's time to rest.
Melatonin and weed
Going to agree with others. Have something on that you can hear in the background. It can be just above a whisper, it can be just nature noises or white noise, it can be a movie or TV show as long as it doesn't get so loud that it wakes you, it can be audiobooks or podcasts. I know someone who enjoys silent film scores as they don't have human voices which intrude or wake one up and the colors of such playing on a TV are muted generally.
Being devastated that your dog may need to be put down does not make you a baby. It's totally normal and understandable that you would be upset, if you need someone to talk to, we're here. I'm sorry you're going through this. As far as natural sleep aids, tiring yourself out and fresh air & sunlight during the day (go for a really long walk if you can, for instance) and some lavender oil on your pillow may help.