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Full disclosure, I peeked at your comment history.
How about those phone mounts and maybe a neat 2-in-1 tripod/monopod for your binoculars? Or a shoulder sling?
Otherwise, my go-to is an experience like others suggested. Escape room, paint nite, afternoon of pool/ bowling/ mini golf, Top Golf, cooking class, museum visit, comedy night, hockey game, roller skating, hiking, music bingo/pub trivia, or consider a hotel room nearby for the night with an indoor pool or my absolute favorite...a cabin weekend with a hot tub and a real wood-burning fireplace.
Damn it! I clearly want things! Why don't I think to write these things down!?
You're only slightly creepy for looking at my comment history, but also pretty dang smart for doing so.
It would take some research, but maybe they can help with that. I think that's the frustrating part for them because they don't know the first thing about these things, but hey... they are the ones who want to get me something. Haha.
Years ago, they bought me clamp on lenses for my phone, but it did not fit. I have a new phone now and I would love lens that I could mount to it. There's a company that makes custom cases so they easily attach. I didn't want to bother getting a new case, but my partner might want to do just that.
And if I don't dig it, we can always return it and try again. Hopefully that wouldn't be too offensive. I've done that in the past and never ended up buying a replacement item even though I promised I would. π¬
So yeah, an attachable lens or mount that would affix my phone to my binoculars when birding. And I think there are monopod stands, kind of like a tripod but only one leg, which can be used to keep things like binoculars stable. Maybe something like that if it isn't too weird looking. Lol
Thank you, creepy internet sleuth! It's so funny that I wrestle with what to think of when I know I've expressed interest in things. I don't know why I couldn't think of that on the spot. I very rarely actually get those things, but others might want to go that extra step and actually get them as a gift!
This can work!
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Use it as an excuse to strengthen your bond I guess. Just say something like "all I want is to do (XYZ thing you know you both like: dinner, movie, whatever.) with you, I don't need anything more." If that even is something you'd even want to do of course. Don't force it if it isn't what you want.
Just be honest with them, you could even possibly try to explain the anxiety you feel about it all and let them know you're happy just being with them in whatever way.
Either that or pick a food you like lol for me I'd probably just say "get me a big ol' bag of chocolate covered pretzels and I'll be in heaven." :P
There's a lot of good truth within this post. More than you might realize. Something to ponder today.
Beans
Jamon Iberico
Life size model of Captain Picard
Escape Room
8000 Hamsters
Ketamine
Dinner at a fancy restaurant
Art
Bathtub of chocolate pudding
An escape room with 8000 hamsters and ketamine. Now that's a birthday
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My eyebrows actually went up and hand went to my chin when I read life-size replica of Captain Picard. Lol.
I would have nowhere to put such a thing and would never actually want it...
But it would be absolutely hilarious and I'd love it nonetheless. π
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I always go with experiences over stuff. I want to do something with the people I care about and collect memories instead of things. It gives people the freedom to be as frugal or lavish as they want and I don't have to store or return anything.
Now this is what I'm talking about. π―
Pick something you already have and use often, like a phone charger or an office chair or a pair of shoes, and ask for a higher quality version of the same thing. Something that will last longer or be more comfortable.
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To list of things anything you could want:
- Goods
- Services
- Relationship time, that is your partner doing things for you,
which can be subdivided into 10 more types of wishes.
Food? Everybody likes food, right?
Or an experience - a trip, a night out, whatever
Consumables are great. It opens up for repeatability and the receiver is never stuck with dust collectors.
You want a fun day trip that you don't have to plan?
I think you lifted gift giving standards way up high and your partner wants to keep up π
- Anything that can be consumed, eaten or drunk is a good gift.
- Tickets to some event you can both attend and spend quality time together. Maybe a concert
Yup, 100%. Consumable treats that you'd not normally buy yourself and experiences like events or lessons.
A small island nation to crush beneath the heel of your boot.
Or, if you don't have boots, you can ask for those.
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With my partner, we usually gift time/knowledge. As in, one person wants to buy something but doesn't have the time/expertise to read up it and find the perfect thing. So the other hops in and does the research for them.
This valentine's my partner helped me decide on a new gaming keyboard, while I got him a custom web domain and email setup.
So maybe if there's a thing you've been meaning to research/buy, let your partner do it as a gift?
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An experience, like going axe-throwing.
A favorite food.
A music playlist made especially with you in mind.
My partner gifted me a pottery class recently, which we are doing next weekend and im VERY excited about. Maybe do that?
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I have the same problem when I need to come up with things on the spot. So instead I keep a list that I add ideas I get for things I want over time. That way if someone asks I can show them that and I don't have to think on the spot about what I want.
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I always ask for the same thing.
A rare steak and messy anal.
Best I can do is a meatball and an over-the-pants tugjob.
A cat.
Good god no. Half my family's allergic. I'm just allergic to their nature. π€£
In that case, a cure for allergies.
And a cat.
I'll put it on my wish list. πͺπΊ
I also donβt like receiving gifts from my spouse. So I just tell her to buy my bar tab for the night.
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Same, Iβd honestly just skip my birthday if that was an option
Ask for world peace maybe it'll work.
I asked god. Still waiting for a response. Will let you know.
She might get mad if you tell her this, but maybe you want some time to yourself. It's what I usually want on my birthday.
my usual responses when asked are:
- Cheap one: 6 pack of beer and a pizza
- Middle one: bottle of vodka and a take out
- Expensive one: bottle of scotch and a bar of dark chocolate
booze and food are always welcome with me lol
Tell them the they are the only gift you need and how lucky you are to have them in your life. Anything material just pails in comparison.
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Food
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