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Its just so exhausting and upsetting.

excerpt from a conversation from yesterday (CW transphobia)Transphobe 1: its too tall!

Transphobe 2: what is?

Transphobe 1 gestures at me

Transphobe 1: that thing

The conversation continued with additional transphobia.

And like i get it okay, im not a person, not even a human, but can we just skip the whole conversation? Or is the whole dehumanization and inflicting pain thing the enjoyable part?

I guess a positive is that it shows who the fake and fairweather allies are, like i was surrounded by people i thought were allies but no one said a damn thing. It was transphobe 2 that actually called out his friend cause 'you just cant say that stuff anymore' ๐Ÿ™„. Transphobe 1 proceeded to try and defend his actions by claiming he was using gender neutral language cause he didnt know how to gender me. Like, no motherfucker you fucking werent! Gender neutral language isnt dehumanizing language! Now i get to go organize an event with these same "allies" who said nothing. I demand that you shoot me now, so i dont have to do this.

Im not sure why im so upset about this. Its not that bad, really just par for the course. Not like he was beating me or anything. And allies should be assumed to be false unless otherwise proven. Its just so tiring. So damn exhausting.

Thanks for listening to me

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Fuck transphobia. You deserve better.

[โ€“] LaughingLion@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago

the formal transphobia also sucks, too

[โ€“] Cummunism@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

nobody has ever said "my pronoun is it."

in any case, gulag to break rocks until they die.

[โ€“] Sickos@hexbear.net 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

There are several folks out there who prefer "it/its". Most famously, maya arson crimew (it/she).

Though obviously the example in the post was done maliciously.

[โ€“] frauddogg@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Based af hacker maya? with the holy bingle?

[โ€“] Evilphd666@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

There was a phrase used before in queer rights and I think it needs to make a comeback because trying to constantly justify your existance is fucking exahusting and I can't believe we're back here again. This country just doesn't learn.

We're here. We're queer. Get used to it.

[โ€“] frauddogg@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sis, I'd walk tf out on that organization that day. I don't even tolerate microaggression out of so-called comrades-- that's that full-on macro cracker shit.

[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago

Ok so like the transphobes were tech people at the location we were organizing at, so not part of the org. But i am considering just dropping the whole org cause people didnt say shit. Like seriously fuck them.

[โ€“] burgermeister@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Who the fuck gets to decide if someone is "too tall"??

[โ€“] sharedburdens@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Me talking to an acquaintance from organizing I haven't talked to in over a year

them: Hi deadname

me: oh it's newname now, I'm using she/her now

them: deadname, newname what's the difference right?

me: agony-yehaw