Ending a call with Love You : wholesomememes

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 6 points 4 hours ago

This reminds me of when I accidentally emailed a client named Bob and addressed him as Boob. I also once pinged my boss on what was then Skype, now Teams saying hey K**e instead of Mike (the M and K are right next to each other on the keyboard. I'm pretty sure he's Jewish or at least part.

Thankfully both were laughed off, but man did I feel like a dumbass.

[–] SpaceCowboy@lemmy.ca 10 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Why is the message in the Trash folder?

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Because probably trying to put it in the past, it was a nice email but it was unnecessary and I think it draws too much attention to the simple slip up. Nothing needed to be said.

[–] Septimaeus@infosec.pub 2 points 1 hour ago

Fair, my instinct would have been to immediately let them off the hook and reassure them so they wouldn’t kick themselves all weekend, but I probably would’ve preferred a more temporary and unofficial medium than email.

[–] nathanjent@programming.dev 11 points 12 hours ago

I'm smiling now.

[–] Pika@sh.itjust.works 115 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Mad props to the lad for not only having the self awareness that his role in the hierarchy likely gave you anxiety from that mistake but for also taking the time to reassure you it was ok. You don't see that every day. I love it.

[–] MilitantAtheist@lemmy.world 28 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Love you

[–] zloubida@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

I love you too.

[–] Sightline@lemmy.world 13 points 17 hours ago

Luv u

[–] Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 42 points 17 hours ago

You redacted the most important part! We're dying to know, did he sign it "love you"?

[–] notabot@lemm.ee 58 points 20 hours ago

Keep that client, they're a good'un.

[–] ChrisMcMillan@lemmy.world 82 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Wholesome!

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 46 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Love you!

[–] SmackemWittadic@lemmy.world 21 points 20 hours ago

Love you too!

(Even though I'm not the person you replied to)

[–] TerkErJerbs@lemm.ee 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I worked phone support a few years ago and did that at the end of a call with a customer. I was really tired and the person was kinda draining but nice, and for some reason my dog's face slipped into my mind as we were ending the call, who I say k-love-you-thanks-bye to all the time.

[–] Juvyn00b@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I worked call center years ago for a credit card company. Used to answer my phone accidentally with my intro from work.

[–] Jankatarch@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

Imagine doing that but you work as a standup comedian or a youtuber or something.

"Hello everybody my name is Markiplier-"

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[+] HubertManne@piefed.social -85 points 20 hours ago (7 children)

is it wholesome that love you is so meaningless a person would auto use it with a random person???

[–] daskye@lemm.ee 29 points 17 hours ago

how can you be so jaded in life to turn this fun and positive story into a negative? lmao

[–] misterdoctor@lemmy.world 49 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Very sad way of looking at this. How about, the person who said “Love you” is so willing to let love in and to give love to others that it comes naturally to them when having a friendly interaction with another person.

[+] HubertManne@piefed.social -44 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

saying I love you as a reflex is not feeling love.

[–] Signtist@lemm.ee 41 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Saying "I love you" as a reflex is an indication that you're surrounded with love so much of the time that instead of having to consciously think about whether love should be expressed, you instead have to consciously think about whether love shouldn't be expressed.

[+] HubertManne@piefed.social -39 points 19 hours ago (5 children)

It means you are surrounded by phrases of love. Love expressed so flippantly has meaning equivalent to I love chocolate.

[–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 18 hours ago

I think you have some issues to work out, man.

[–] JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca 24 points 18 hours ago

Damn bro are you okay?

[–] BetaBlake@lemmy.world 14 points 17 hours ago

I think you are extrapolating a lot of information that isn't there. You should reflect on why that is

[–] Signtist@lemm.ee 14 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Feeling the need to end all conversations with "I love chocolate" likely means that you really love chocolate. Most people don't express love so often that they do it accidentally unless they feel it so often that they'd want to express it at the end of most conversations.

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Counterpoint: love deserves reinforcement, and for many people the seemingly trivial task of appending it to a verbal statement - our most basic form of communication outside facial gestures - serves well enough if you know the foundations of your love are good.

You may not see it that way and you may feel different, and that's fine. But this is clearly an issue for you and your partner(s), not us.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social -1 points 14 hours ago

this I get but I do worry about those folks as I think they will fall into the trap of looking at words of love rather than actions of love.

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

You're the one in the flippant relationship lol, do you not see how much projection you're doing rn? You're a goddamn overhead with the wet-erase markers

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 13 hours ago

well I mean if projection is saying the way I feel then sure you can call it that. But that is really not what projection is. At the end of the day Im one of those folks who feel words mean nothing and actions mean everything. I don't want someone to tell me they love me. I want to feel loved by them. Im lucky in that I have that but I wonder with convos like these how many actually do.

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

If that's the way you feel, your relationship sucks.

I've been married close to a decade and we mean it even if it sounds casual.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 14 hours ago

I have been married 24 years so take that what you may. One reason my wife like me is because I show love more often than say it and vice versa.

[–] Speculater@lemmy.world 14 points 17 hours ago

9/10 of my phone calls are with my wife, it's a reflex to say, "I love you." before hanging up. I could definitely see myself accidentally saying it to someone else as we ended a pleasant conversation.

[–] superkret@feddit.org 23 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

It definitely isn't wholesome that the concept of feeling love towards a great number of people, it even strangers, seems so foreign to you.

[–] polderprutser@feddit.nl 6 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Hi stranger! I love you!

Jokes aside, I'm sure I can't convince you, but I'm sharing this for other readers here in case they find it interesting.

Our brain is fairly complex and deals with unique, complex, but usually somewhat familiar problem patterns throughout the day. To handle this complexity efficiently, the brain tries to run on autopilot as much as possible. I think the brain is one of the most energy-hungry organs in our body (either that, or the Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell).

When you're stressed or on high alert, you carefully weigh every word. BUT when you're relaxed and comfortable, your brain slips into these autopilot scripts. That's when these verbal "muscle memories" can kick in.

Based on this scenario, if you can slip into autopilot mode where you naturally say "I love you" to someone, chances are high you're regularly surrounded by loving relationships where this phrase is common. Your brain has basically created a shortcut for familiar social interactions.

So to this OP, get rekt lol. you're actually outing yourself as someone who is NOT experiencing a lot of love in your life! Hope I'm either wrong or this changes for you in the future. CHEERS.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

So what gets me is the idea that saying or hearing I love you means a person is surrounded by love in a loving environment. I have known many the person who says I love you to people who they would not go out of their way to pick up if they needed a ride. I see love in the actions I take and my family takes on a a regular basis.

[–] polderprutser@feddit.nl 1 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (1 children)

Ideally yes, but I do recognise they're just words in the end. Actions are what matter most if I'm understanding you correctly? If so, I fully agree!

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 0 points 12 hours ago

yes this is the crux of why I made my comment. I love you used as a replacement for goodbye just feels like it lessens it. Curiously when I tell my wife I love her verbally its actually an action because I know she needs to hear words sometimes but much like swearing I don't like it to become to so common it looses its meaning.

[–] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 20 hours ago

They're not a random person. They're someone the sayer has a close work relationship with. They may have worked together for years, we don't know.

[–] Nelots@lemm.ee 4 points 16 hours ago

I was going to say "I bet you're fun at parties", but that would require you to get invited to any, which I highly doubt happens.