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[–] candyman337@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Reminder for those that comment that hate and rude comments are against the community's rules

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[–] notnotmike@programming.dev 79 points 2 months ago (12 children)

I've always disliked plastic surgery, botox and heavy makeup. But that's normal enough

My real hot take is I am disgusted by long, fake nails. They make my skin crawl. They're so cumbersome, I truly don't understand how people love with them

[–] grte@lemmy.ca 29 points 2 months ago

I truly don’t understand how people love with them

Very carefully.

[–] remon@ani.social 13 points 2 months ago

Yes to all of these.

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[–] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 75 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Overly full lips. There's a bandwidth there where it should fit the rest of the facial features. Filling them up with collagen just almost never looks good.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago

Rarely even a little bit looks good. You can just tell immediately.

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[–] anon6789@lemmy.world 50 points 2 months ago

I don't get why people try to hide freckles. They're so unique!

[–] CocaineShrimp@lemm.ee 47 points 2 months ago (6 children)

Tabs over spaces, always

... wait, you're asking in asklemmy, not programming...

Uhhh... that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc

[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Uhhh... that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc

Do you mean styling baby hairs?

[–] CocaineShrimp@lemm.ee 10 points 2 months ago (3 children)
[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 12 points 2 months ago

Thanks i hate it

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 11 points 2 months ago

I also hate those.

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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 44 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

Ultra low body fat, e.g. high fashion models, bodybuilders. You don't see it that much in real life, but it's pretty heavily promoted in media. Plus the dehydration thing for bodybuilders, I hate that 'saran wrap' look.

[–] selokichtli@lemmy.ml 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

This is the worst. So damaging to the overall health of everyone.

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[–] gedaliyah@lemmy.world 40 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Lip injections make me think of those wax lips they used to give out for Halloween

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[–] fujiwood@lemmy.world 40 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (16 children)

Not everyone is beautiful. Most people are average and many are not attractive.

Obesity is not beautiful. It is unhealthy and honestly delusional.

Edit: Most people are thinking of this when mentioning obesity.

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=real+obese+people+&t=h_&iar=images

Not this.

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=heavy+rugby+players&t=fpas&iar=images

Complaining about the BMI scale is a disservice to those who truly need to lose weight for their health.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 23 points 2 months ago (10 children)

Obesity is not beautiful. It is unhealthy

I'd even go so far as to say obesity is unattractive, because it's unhealthy.

Healthy is of course beautiful.

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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 10 points 2 months ago

Average is plenty beautiful, though. At least in countries where 'average' doesn't mean 'severely over- or underweight'.

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[–] Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 33 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Mowed lawns. Just let it grow, it's easier and healthier.

This is literal and an innuendo.

[–] phonics@lemmy.world 31 points 2 months ago (1 children)

My favorite people, and probably yours too are not 10/10 hotties. The people I want to spend time with are funny and kind.

Chasing 'beauty standards', I feel, is a waste of your human potential. That time can be better used building friendships and community. Isn't that what most people really want?

If people focused their time there instead, maybe they would feel more accepted, confident and worthy instead of trying to shortcut their way to perceived success by altering their bodies. I find it sad that the digital age has pushed humanity so deeply in to 'comparative society'.

Confidence is the hottest most attractive thing to me in the end.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It can go too far in the opposite direction, though. I was raised in an environment where men doing literally anything besides showering a bit was gay.

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[–] i_am_not_a_robot@feddit.uk 30 points 2 months ago (1 children)

What always disturbs me, and it seems worryingly prevalent on The Apprentice, is drawn-on eyebrows.

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[–] DrBob@lemmy.ca 25 points 2 months ago
[–] Nemo@midwest.social 23 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Thinned eyebrows, I love a good thick eyebrow.

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[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 21 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Not a beauty standard per se, but I don’t like tattoos one bit.

It used to be “rebellious” to have a tattoo, but nowadays it seems like everyone has one - so maybe the truly rebellious thing now is not having them.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 14 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I don't think tattoos have been about rebellion in a long time. It's just art for your body.

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[–] bieren@lemmy.zip 21 points 2 months ago (1 children)
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[–] fargeol@lemmy.world 21 points 2 months ago (1 children)

"Beauty has to be gendered"

I think you don't need to "look like a man" or "look like a woman" to be pretty

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[–] some_designer_dude@lemmy.world 20 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Fake eye lashes. Holy God do they look stupid but somehow are so normalized. No idea how some women find the courage to walk outside with what look to me like Muppet eyes.

For the love of God ladies, tone it down. Your eyes are beautiful as they are! Mascara is one thing, but if I feel a fucking breeze every time you blink, it’s gone too far.

[–] Shirasho@lemmings.world 14 points 2 months ago

You have it backwards. As with all things beauty, it isn't about having the courage to do it - doing it gives you courage and confidence.

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[–] Outwit1294 20 points 2 months ago (9 children)

Beards. I never understood why some women find it so sexy. But I am okay with people having different tastes. What is icky is that some women have made such a huge deal about them that it gets borderline unfair for men who don’t want to bother with grooming or those who cannot grow a full beard.

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[–] viking@infosec.pub 18 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Thick butts. No thank you. A little bump is nice, but most of what's out there is gross, and with a surface resembling asteroid impact craters.

[–] Outwit1294 16 points 2 months ago (2 children)

You are probably looking at fat asses and not big asses

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[–] MelonYellow@lemmy.ca 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I would’ve said the tanning obsession, for health reasons, but that’s changed over the years.

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[–] scytale@lemmy.zip 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Septum rings. They just remind me of cows.

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[–] BrundleFly2077@sh.itjust.works 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)
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[–] selokichtli@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 months ago

The =>6 ft tall obsession for males. Not one inch less.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Pure white teeth. I prefer ivory shades- not yellow, just the natural ivory. I've had salespeople approach me offering teeth whitening products and it terrifies me.

[–] twice_hatch@midwest.social 11 points 2 months ago (3 children)
[–] Oberyn@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago (2 children)

How are overalls beauty standard 🤣🤣🤣

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