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The horny people are gonna come here, just watch and see 😉.

Ads and the entire ad-driven culture.

Especially as a gay guy, seeing massively upvoted posts of a woman holding basically anything (but she’s wearing a low-cut top!!!!!!) got pretty exhausting.

Trust me; they're coming. As a borderline asexual person I'd want nothing more than a non horny refuge, but that will never exist. Humans are far far too horned up to allow for that.

I am waiting for some NSFW communities/instances to be created. It has the addition of attracting new users as well.

Some of the subreddits could be great, but some could also be really mean and unwelcoming. So far it seems much more friendly here, and I hope that's not just the honeymoon period.

The thing I like the most is that I don't have to scroll through lines of people making jokes to get to the actual discussion or insightful commentary on the topic. Even though there is less happening here, it is definitely more. I honestly can't see going back to reddit.

*yet.

A/S/L?

Oh, there's still plenty of time for that. I've already seen a couple of NSFW Lemmy instances,

Another thing I appreciate here is the lack of ragebait. It's more common in video sharing platforms (which Reddit keeps stumbling over itself trying to become) where you have people deliberately making awful food recipes or doing something completely nonsensical for the sole purpose of clicks and engagement.

Social media in its current state is focused on pissing people off. Twitter and Reddit making decisions to kneecap themselves for the sake of lofty ideals is the best thing that's happened to the Internet in recent memory.

Something similar drove me off 4chan'd /b/ back in the day. At some point, it became absolutely not random, but simply dedicated to various porn - porn that surely had their own board, which made me even more confused as to why post it in a place that is specifically made for basically uncategorised content that shouldn't fit anywhere else.

We'll see how that goes as lemmy gets more popular...

I don't know how to tell you this.....

Lol, I kinda agree, which is somewhat related to another thing I won't miss: The teenagers.

The lockdown + reddit's new direction of becoming more like fb/insta has drastically increased the number of teenagers on reddit. I hate it. It's like an eternal summer-reddit.

The discussions get crappy and stale, they don't follow rediquette, they are insufferably naive but aggressive with their opinions due to twitterification of their online socialisation. and so.fricking.horny. TIFU and Askreddit almost completely became horny fantasy posting, and I blame the teenagers for it.

God I feel like a terminally-online grumpy old man for saying it, but UGH interacting with teens online is like a human rights violation.

I'm hoping it won't happen here but the endless shoehorning about how every single little problem anyone under the age of 40 encounters is because of fUcKiNg BoOmErS, and how anyone under the age of 40 is the most oppressed group of people in the history of time.

I’ve really enjoyed how much discussion is going on here! It seems like everyone is excited and happy to be here. Friendly conversations is something I missed on Reddit and I’m happy to have that here.

You're not wrong; I've noticed the same. Less 'horny' specifically, and more.... reasonable and engaged; vs impulsive and reactive.

I think the accessibility of reddit vs Lemmy plays a feature there. Lemmy requires at least some level of tech literacy to understand well enough to use, and it also isn't where most of the people are. So the people choosing to use Lemmy fully intend to use it; we're not casual users.

Because it's so easy to use, I think Reddit has a lot of young and/or immature people (demographics that overlap, but aren't the same). So it's full of impulsive, heavily-opinionated, casual users who aren't really invested in their communities, that can easily make a new account on a whim, and that create echo chambers with their votes.

It's not really Reddit's fault, tbh. It's an issue of user population, especially when 90% of the users do nothing more than upvote (so generically agreeable things rise) or downvote (anything that challenges them falls). The bigger a user platform gets, the more it homogenises.

Reddit was only unusual in that subreddits let it homogenise on a sub-by-sub basis and create echo chambers; a savvy redditor could still find smaller subs with better discussion (r/patientgamers rather than r/gaming for example). Or subs would get bigger and start becoming hostile or tribal, losing their original mission - and somebody from the old days would make a 'true' version (r/childfree vs r/truechildfree).

Lemmy is too small for groupthink to homogenise it (yet?). But particularly large instances could potentially go the same way given enough years. It's just that Lemmy being federated means that we can make new instances, and defederate from any that we may find unpleasant. I've already learned of one portal that isn't federated to my chosen one.

I am still horny. I am just waiting for someone to make a popular NSFW instance. I have considered doing it myself but I doubt I would have the energy to manage it.

I won't miss the adverts.

I'm so tired of being viewed as a revenue source in one way or another. It's really nice to go open source and not have that any more.

I'll miss my account, I've had it since 2012, but that's life.