CommieElon

I have been in a long term relationship with my girlfriend but I keep getting overpowering feelings of wanting to date other people.

My girlfriend and I have been together almost 7 years now. We have a great life together and I love her dearly. She’s my best friend who I talk to all the time, we always have so much fun when we do things, we travel, great sex, etc. Recently talk of engagement has been popping up which I’m not ready for even though we’ve been together for so long. Despite that, I’m very happy with our relationship.

I do envision spending the rest of my life together and building toward a great future but recently I’ve been experiencing feelings of wanting to date around. I never dated before her. She’s my first partner and only women I’ve had sex with. As I’m getting into my late 20s I feel like I’ve missed out on dating and meeting knew people. Before my girlfriend I never had the confidence to ask girls out, I skipped all of my high school dances, and I had trouble talking to girls in person. I have a lot of regret because of my lack of confidence at that time.

Now I’m confident and much better socially. I just want to experience the thrill of dating. This is despite having a great partner who I love dearly. I’ve been trying to stop these feelings of wanting to date others for months but they’re stronger than ever. I know the grass is not always greener on the other side and dating is not easy. It’s also likely I won’t ever meet someone as good as my current partner. But I can’t shake these feelings. I don’t want to be 40 and having regrets when I already have so many.

What should I do? What other perspectives can I think of? Sorry for the relationship rant, but this site always gives great advice.

Unless it’s a service animal, I don’t like when dogs are in public buildings. Tired of trying to buy food at the grocery store but having to dodge dogs and avoid stepping over their leashes. This anger is mostly directed at their owners as I’m skittish around dogs I don’t know.

Hello all,

In my efforts to not be a Brocialist, I still have some unlearning to do. Whenever my dad and I talk about bad bosses he always says “the worst bosses I’ve ever had were white females and the best were black females.” I’ve heard this so many times I feel like it has influenced some of my thinking. It’s something I may need to deconstruct.

Anyways, my girlfriend and I work at the same place and we both have agreed our current boss, a white female, is the worst boss we’ve ever had. My girlfriend also said “my other terrible boss was a white female so I think you’re dad is onto something. I wonder why.” I responded stupidly with “I think it’s white feminism.” She got really mad and said “how can you paint feminism as broadly as that?” I said “there are other strains of feminism”

I admit I shouldn’t have used “white feminism” but instead “mainstream liberal feminism”. The conversation ended there and I wasn’t able to expand on why Liberal Feminism doesn’t prevent white females from being bad bosses. Liberal feminism doesn’t aim to deconstruct intersectional issues of social justice namely racism, class hierarchy, and imperialism. Mainstream feminism is primarily propelled by and consumed by white females which has taught them to, and borrowing from Angela Davis, “push through the glass ceiling” where they can be a girl boss and not directly confront their position of power specifically class and white supremacy.

White females have grown up relatively privileged because they have rolled around in the blood money that the wealth of imperialism and capitalism have brought them. I know the long history of oppression they have endured and I don’t want to skirt over it but in comparison to BIPOC they’re better off and have profited from our system. Combine their privilege with the ideology of Liberal feminism which has told them to integrate and take the reins over an exploitative system so when they become bosses it can influence them to be very exploitative.

Help me learn here!

TLDR: I said white feminism may have influenced white females to be bad bosses. Girlfriend got mad. Mainstream Liberal Feminism tells white females to integrate and control an exploitive system. When white females succeed, their background of privilege and liberal strand of feminism may be a reason why they can be really bad bosses.

We all know the white guys who call themselves history buffs but only have a limited knowledge of WWII which is based on history channel documentaries.