After I moved out from a place I was renting with my ex last year I crunched some numbers and realized that it’s cheaper to travel around the world and stay in a mix of hostels/long term stay airbnbs/share houses than it would be to rent a place by myself in a MCOL area while paying for a car. It’s absolutely fucking criminal how much price gouging there is in the US, I’m currently paying ~700 USD/mo for a cozy apartment in downtown Kyoto. It’s clean, quiet, safe, and I have literally everything I could ever need within a 20 minute walk. I don’t think anything comparable even exists in the US but the closest is likely downtown NYC/Boston for $3000+ a month while that same price might get you a place in bumfuck nowhere, North Dakota where a car is absolutely required.
So all of that is to say, OP, get the fuck out of the US if you can.
Japan is still Wakanda for white people but I think the sustained ridicule of weebs over the past decade or two has contributed to a sharp decline in Ken-Sama types. That and the huge boost in tourism in the past few years have made it much less of a mysterious, “exotic” place, a lot more people have firsthand experience that it’s a normal country with normal people like any other.