PopPrincess

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[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 3 points 5 months ago

Alright, I'll do some more research. I guess I'm just worried that they would be more strict due to the war and increasingly bad relations between the West and Russia. I do know some Ukrainian, but I'll try learning some Russian before going too.

Georgia considers it illegal to enter Abkhazia and South Ossetia from Russia as they see it as illegally entering into Georgia, so I think it applies broadly to everyone. I think you are right regarding the visa stamps, I can't see how else they would know outside of that.

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 4 points 5 months ago

I'm trans and from Denmark and I can confirm this. Gender affirming care in the Nordic countries is awful. Long waitlists, terrible care, lacking surgical coverage, no HRT for minors, basically legal discrimination when it comes to healthcare rights, awful and untrustworthy staff at the gender clinics, etc.

Societal attitudes are alright. Like I haven't really experienced any direct transphobia towards me that I know of, but transphobia is generally just pervasive in any country and it's more socially acceptable to be transphobic than homophobic, so you'll definitely hear transphobic statements here. Transphobia also seems to be on the rise sadly, not too long ago the previous "minister of equality" wrote a straight-up transphobic article, so it's not looking too good.

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 2 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I'm mainly worried about Russia as I'll be going to the Northern Caucasus region, possibly crossing Chechnya, so their laws could be stricter. From what I've read they do sometimes check luggage upon entering Chechnya and Ingushetia, so I might need to avoid going through there. I could end the trip in Vladikavkaz, but I hope to end the trip in Dagestan and fly home from there.

Very random, but you don't happen to know if Georgia would know if I entered Abkhazia and South Ossetia through Russia? Like if I get a new passport they wouldn't know right? I want to avoid being banned from Georgia.

I'll try looking into checked luggage for the flights.

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (4 children)

Yeah that's true, it's just hard to gauge which countries would be risky to travel to. I kind of want to go to Russia this summer and I'm not sure if they would care or not, and I'd have to use Turkey as a stopover. I usually never travel with checked-in luggage, but wouldn't there be a risk there too?

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 8 points 5 months ago (6 children)

Yeah that's what I was thinking too. I actually just looked it up and Malaysia does ban sex toys, but it seems like Thailand does too so idk. Do you think faking a doctors note for vaginismus could avoid confiscation?

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (8 children)

Anyone who has experienced getting their dilators confiscated by customs when traveling? I read a post on reddit where she got her dilators confiscated by customs when entering Malaysia, and it's something I've thought about a lot when thinking about traveling. Like I'd rather not run into this issue😅

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

@TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net I forgot to reply😅

spoilerhttps://hexbear.net/comment/5881998

I'm not sure I'd call it internalized transphobia, I'd more say it's my subjective experience of being trans, but you are definitely right about the reverse double standard. I don't really care about other people, but I hold myself to an impossibly high standard. Seeing it like that, the quote from your comment definitely seems like a horrible way to view myself😅, but idk I have a hard time letting myself be happy.

My goal is basically to assimilate in cis society. The one thing I truly want is a bog-standard heterosexual monogamous relationship with a husband and to have 3-4 kids. I don't really feel a need to engage in LGBT+ communities IRL, and I wouldn't be able to befriend anyone there as it would hinder my goal of being stealth. But as you say, I've definitely seen a lot of trans people online who share my self-conceptions, but I don't want to talk about it as I'll usually just feel worse about myself afterwards😅

I think I just need to log off and stop doomscrolling. Luckily the new semester has begun so I can go back to being a workaholic😍 And thank you for the consideration❤️

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

spoilerThe only things I connect with being trans are anger, shame and disgust. I’d prefer to never have been born. Sorry for the negativity, I’m just in a bad period currently.

Thanks for the kindness💕

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (3 children)

dysphoria/datingIdk, I guess I just don’t want to deal with any more trans issues. I hate being trans with all my being and I don’t want to be reminded of it. Also, I wouldn’t want my hatred of being trans to affect a partner of mine. Generally I suppress what is necessary to not out myself, e.g I’m slightly bisexual, but I won’t date women.

I can definitely see how it would be nice to not have to worry about transphobia and also have an inherent understanding, but I’d prefer a partner to never bring up me being trans, I hate talking about it or being reminded of it (to such a degree that I’ve considered cutting off anyone who knows I’m trans including my family even though they are supportive)

But idk, it’s not like I’ll completely rule out dating another trans person, but it’s unlikely due to my dysphoria and the fact that I don’t know any trans people IRL. I’ll have to see what the future brings😅

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago (5 children)

I don't know any other trans people, actually I've only ever met two trans men (at least that I know of, most likely I've interacted with more than two). I also do not participate in any LGBT+ communities IRL as my number one priority in life is to go stealth. I guess I'm also worried that dating another trans person would make my dysphoria even worse, maybe it's irrational idk😵‍💫

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 11 points 5 months ago

Yeah like on top of being a bigot, he is a moron too😫 The worst part is that we are both medical students😬

[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 15 points 5 months ago (7 children)

Yaa it was kind of a weird situation to be in (especially since he kissed me twice during the break today lol), but it means I won't have to waste my time or out myself unnecessarily. I kind of see it as his loss, like we vibed together and he seems very interested, he even wanted to watch a movie together today.

And thank you❤️ Dating as a trans person truly is miserable😫

 

So yaa, how do you like balance work-life-balance and interests. I'm considering a job or however to put it that is known for awful work-life-balance, but is also incredibly interesting, but I'm not sure if it's worth it😩

Like I do want to get married and have a family and such at some point, but that is in no way guaranteed, especially not considering my circumstances, meanwhile focusing on career seems more safe I suppose😵‍💫

 

So basically the title, I'm looking for documentaries about global health, preferably with a runtime of less than an hour. Any input is appreciated :)

 

Like in terms of climate change, political climate, wars, etc. soviet-bashful

 

I'm going to be visiting family for about a month and I'm going to be doing a lot of cooking and baking, so I need some inspiration. Any suggestions are welcome😊

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