PopPrincess

My desire for it has only increased, especially since making it out of the early transition phase and now passing consistently. The thought definitely seems scary, but ideally you'd be sharing the responsibility with a partner. If I could have kids I would be determined not to repeat my parents mistakes. I'm also quite good at balancing many things and generally being responsible for many things, so I think it would be something I could handle, but I'll never know :(

Yeah I'll try to gauge it. I'll be seeing him this weekend (but not on a date, it's school/work-related), so I'll wait until after that to disclose.

Well I don't want to unnecessarily out myself as I want to be as stealth as possible and it could have career ramifications if too many people know, and I feel that feeling out a person by going on a date or two is alright, but it can definitely be dangerous😅

Yeah I think that's the best course of action. The first date is tomorrow so in any case I'll see how that goes before deciding on anything. I just hate that I even have to think about and deal with situations such as these😭😭😭

So like how do you best come out to someone (when dating)? How early in the process? Like I'm semi-stealth it seems, so idk how to go about it😩

Going on a date on thursday, I'm so nervous🙈🙈🙈 First time I've been asked out by someone I met IRL, although he most likely doesn't know I'm trans, so I'm not excited for that conversation😖 Idk what to expect😫

I fucking hate the Nordic countries. I feel like my sole purpose in life is to escape from here.

Some countries have laws regarding the gender of names, so you can't change your name from a 'male' name to a 'female' name or vice versa. Some names are seen as unisex though so you can freely use those regardless of your gender.

I think the best one is the one in Aalborg.

Generally, you just want to show and tell them what they want to see and hear. You basically have to portray a binary (possibly heterosexual) trans person even if you aren't. For my first appointment I showed up in feminine clothes, nail polish, etc. and I had practiced what to say when asked different things. E.g. when they asked about my mental health I lied about basically everything except for my awful dysphoria. You really want to bring up dysphoria and how it affects you, but not other mental health issues. I also implicitly stated that I would likely kill myself if I had to continue living as a man, but I didn't explicitly say that I was suicidal as that could be used against me. If you have any mental health diagnoses that could negatively affect the process as they like to deny care based on frivolous reasons.

In regards to my family situation I lied and told them I had a good relationship with my family (like it's decent, but they weren't great parents, kind of emotionally neglectful, but I did not mention this). I also came out to my family between first and second appointment which seemed to be seen as positive. Other than that I think being on DIY HRT is also a benefit as it shows you are serious about transitioning (and my personal theory is that they want to control your transition so they want you off DIY).

Idk you might already know all of this, but this was how I went about it and I was only forced through the minimum of four appointments before being approved.