TraschcanOfIdeology

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[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Where I live, a car driver's license allows you to drive small scooters and mopeds. I have ridden those, as well as bigger motorcycles illegally. Let me tell you, nothing you learn driving a car works for when you're on two wheels, even if they're small. Now imagine a much larger engine on a top-heavy piece of machinery and you have an ATV. Even if it has 4 wheels it's not all that stable.

Weeds are a social construct.

Damn not even botany can escape critical theory. No but seriously, I've done some ethnobotany work, and a lot of it deals with the "weeds" that grow alongside crops, and how they're gathered and used by the farmers.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I remember reading that in the US tarring and feathering was used mostly as a way to physically abuse and intimidate black people, for example, if found after dark on a sundown town, or if perceived to be "uppity" by white racists.

Hang in there, comrade cuddle.

In my case it explained so much, and somewhat made the resentment I felt towards her and myself easier to get over. It's not that she was a bad person or that I did something wrong, she's just sick and didn't really have the tools to deal with it.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 15 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I don't mean to claim to know your issues or trauma, but in my case recognizing the signs of mental illness in my mother helped me move forward with dealing with my own childhood trauma. It doesn't erase them, but at least it helped me see her actions as those of someone who isn't well.

I hope this helps you be more at peace with your folks' actions, even if materially it doesn't change much.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

At that point it's just better to invest on one of those dedicated emulator consoles... They're not terribly expensive and they're natively offline. Plus, clicky buttons, which I think really enhances the experience.

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I wish! If I wasn't so broke i'd have more than just the one pair.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 30 points 2 days ago (7 children)

It could be some kind of undiagnosed/unadressed mental illness, too. If your folks aren't willing to see a professional about it, nothing you can do, but it may help you reframe their actions so that it causes you less grief.

They're fucking everyone, including people whose lives are already emiserated and precarious, and have nothing to do with these superstitions.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

I might be outed as a tree-loving, crunchy granola hippy, but goddamn if Birkenstock sandals aren't the comfiest stuff you can wear on your feet. Every autumn and winter is a countdown to when i can wear my birkenstocks again. They're pretty durable, and more importantly to me, repairable.

 

I got a "thank you for subscribing to American Prestige" in my feed and no new episodes. Anyone have another feed? ty

 

So yeah, after like 3 months of tests, including an IQ test for some reason, today I was given the "good news" that I'm not making it up, I actually have ADHD, and my struggles are valid in the eyes of the medical establishment.

I asked the doctor if they had seen something related to autism, and they said yes, so next week I'll know if they're moving forward with tests for that, too.

Yay? I don't feel much, other than relief that it's over. I'll have some fast food to celebrate and take a nap.

 

Tag yourself I want to be Sun Ra but I'm more of a Chet.

 

Again, thank you all so much for the help i've received so far. It's the first time I ask for help in the mutual aid comm, and everyone has been wonderful.

I spoke to the landlord about the three months rent I owe, and they are insisting on getting at least one month's rent before the end of the month to be satisfied. I'm planning on giving them as much as i've been able to receive this month, but i don't think it's going to be the full amount. Still waiting to get started on the job i'm supposed to start at the end of the month, so not many updates on that front.

If any of y'all can help, even a little, it will go towards showing my landlord i'm really trying to get the money to be square with them.

As on my previous posts, I have set up a ko-fi account, where you can donate anonymously: ko-fi.com/izzysfoodtakes (don't worry about the first name and opsec, it's a new name i'm trying out but nothing to do with my real name), and I can PM you my paypal username if you prefer to use that.

Thank you for reading, and have a lovely sunday!

 

First, infinite thanks to the comrades who have contributed. You have no idea how at least having that bit of money set aside helped me motivate to not rot in executive dysfunction. You're all wonderful. penguin-love

Some good news, for a change! Found a job that should tide me over for a few months while I put things in order a bit. The job should start at the end of January, and pays monthly. But at least i'll be busy and getting money!

If anyone can chip in with whichever amount you can, you'd be providing precious help. Thank you in advance, and have a lovely weekend!

EDIT: i'm a dumbass, i didn't put the details to send the money. I have set up a ko-fi account, where you can donate anonymously: ko-fi.com/izzysfoodtakes (don't worry about the first name and opsec, it's a new name i'm trying out but nothing to do with my real name), and I can PM you my paypal username if you prefer to use that.

 

My deepest thanks to whomever contributed, and to everyone reading. You have my gratitude!

I'm reposting my old post, because I still need your help with one month of rent for this month, any little bit will help me so much:

I've been using this handle since just about when the subreddit got nuked, and while I'm not a super prolific poster, some of you might know me for my posts on food history and philosophy.

some context to my situation, and a bit of my storyI have been incredibly lucky to have been able to do only food scholarship for a living recently after more than a decade working random jobs, which is awesome for me, since I'm super passionate about it, and I love the work.

However, I don't have a stable position, and I mostly do small writing work here and there, or work for small grants with universities, so my whole income situation is pretty precarious.

Last year was specially rough, some work fell through, I never got paid for work i spent 9 months doing (still fighting the people responsible for that), and started a new job that looked promising but eventually fell through, all the while struggling with very strong autistic burnout and depression, which almost sent me to the psych hospital several times.

A pretty bad year, income, physical and mental-health wise has led to me being three months late on rent. Things were pretty bad already, but I thought i could manage until my family back home (I'm an immigrant from the Global South) asked me for urgent help with money. I gathered whatever little money i had left and sent a remittance immediately. This, of course, left me with no money to even pay one month's rent.

Conveniently, the landlord has let me know that unless i pay at least one month's rent ASAP, i'm out on the streets. I am currently looking for any job that can tide me over while i get back on track, but things are kind of sedate in retail and other jobs around my area because of the new year. Some of my community around me have helped with groceries, but none of them could help me with the cash i need to keep a roof over my head, so i'm turning to you hexbears.

The place i live in is what keeps my fragile mental health still going, and I honestly don't know what I would do without it. If you can spare anything at all, I would appreciate it so much.

I have set up a ko-fi account, where you can donate anonymously: ko-fi.com/izzysfoodtakes (don't worry about the first name and opsec, it's a new name i'm trying out but nothing to do with my real name), and I can PM you my paypal username if you prefer to use that.

Thank you for reading, and have a lovely day.

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Fidget/Stim toys? (hexbear.net)
submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net
 

What has y'all experience with fidget or stim toys been? I'm getting assessed for ADHD, and it's likely i have autism, too. Today, during one of the ADHD assessments I mentioned to the psychologist applying the test that I pick the skin around my fingernails constantly, and she recommended getting one.

Do they help, in your experience? Anything to look for in one?

 

Hi Everyone,

I've been using this handle since just about when the subreddit got nuked, and while I'm not a super prolific poster, some of you might know me for my posts on food history and philosophy.

some context to my situation, and a bit of my storyI have been incredibly lucky to have been able to do only food scholarship for a living recently after more than a decade working random jobs, which is awesome for me, since I'm super passionate about it, and I love the work.

However, I don't have a stable position, and I mostly do small writing work here and there, or work for small grants with universities, so my whole income situation is pretty precarious.

Last year was specially rough, some work fell through, I never got paid for work i spent 9 months doing (still fighting the people responsible for that), and started a new job that looked promising but eventually fell through, all the while struggling with very strong autistic burnout and depression, which almost sent me to the psych hospital several times.

A pretty bad year, income, physical and mental-health wise has led to me being three months late on rent. Things were pretty bad already, but I thought i could manage until my family back home (I'm an immigrant from the Global South) asked me for urgent help with money. I gathered whatever little money i had left and sent a remittance immediately. This, of course, left me with no money to even pay one month's rent.

Conveniently, the landlord has let me know that unless i pay at least one month's rent ASAP, i'm out on the streets. I am currently looking for any job that can tide me over while i get back on track, but things are kind of sedate in retail and other jobs around my area because of the new year. Some of my community around me have helped with groceries, but none of them could help me with the cash i need to keep a roof over my head, so i'm turning to you hexbears.

The place i live in is what keeps my fragile mental health still going, and I honestly don't know what I would do without it. If you can spare anything at all, I would appreciate it so much.

I have set up a ko-fi account, where you can donate anonymously: ko-fi.com/izzysfoodtakes (don't worry about the first name and opsec, it's a new name i'm trying out but nothing to do with my real name), and I can PM you my paypal username if you prefer to use that.

Thank you for reading, and have a lovely day.

 

The ones on jumble.top are broken

Ty!

 

So, a very talented friend of mine is having an exhibition of her art at a small town close to where I live. Its a 30 minute drive, but 2 hours on public transport, with 2 buses, one train, and a long walk under the summer sun on the way. Whatever, I'll sleep/read on the way, right?

so I show up at the bus station 10 minutes before the bus takes off, the bus arrives, and the driver gets off and turns off the bus. I think he's just going to the bathroom, to take a break, smoke a cigarette, whatever. Nope. He never returns.

I've now been standing at the bus station for an hour after the scheduled departure time, staring at the switched off bus, and fuming about how I have just lost 20 bucks because I missed all the other buses and trai (i had to buy the tickets beforehand), how now I can't get to the exhibition without being late for work, how I will have let down my friend by not showing up and supporting her, and how this wouldn't have happened if I just had a fucking car and wasn't a depressed mess who can't find energy to do anything until the very last moment, letting down everyone around me.

I don't normally get angry, but this whole thing has made me very upset.

 

As i'm going up in deadlifting weight, i find my grip gives way earlier than any other part of my body, making me lose reps because the bar feels like it's slipping off my fingers. I tried incorporating hook grip into the exercise, and while the bar felt a bit more secure, I felt my middle finger was rubbing against my thumb nail and making it feel like it was pulling it out, and causing a bunch of pain, and no matter what I tried it always came down to that when the bar left the ground.

Any advice?

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