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[โ€“] magi@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

You learn to not care, that's the trick. That usually comes with age/experience decoy

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (2 children)

You learn to not care

TEACH ME YOUR WAYS MAGI reach-left reach-right

comes with age

cheems I hate having to wait until I'm older.

[โ€“] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Iโ€™m probably way younger than you and never cared lol. Good luck. Try some contrarianism? Idk. Also emojis are literally punctuation and I love it. susie-dance

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

owl-pissed Yea see, why does everyone else have the "idgaf" autism and here I am desperate to be accepted.

[โ€“] magi@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Not everyone has the same experience nor the privilege to not give a fuck and still be safe.

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I know kitty-cri but I am safe. It is a prison I have put myself in (well, sometimes it feels like that my autism has put me in, but I'm not going to make this funny a sad).

[โ€“] magi@hexbear.net 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Society has given you those cues and it's something you have to work through, it can be tough. Not everyone goes through the same level of hardship and some people are more sheltered or come from a place of privilege so it can be difficult to gauge life experience and what affects an individual.

I grew up poor with a lot of abuse on top of autism and everything else, this shaped me and my perspective in how I viewed people and outside influence. I also grew up in a conservative place that made self expression dangerous.

There are people who don't have that kind of oppression forced on them or to a far lesser degree and come from a place of privilege so their perspective is already difrerent to what I experienced. So it can be easier for them to feel safe if that makes sense because they haven't had to deal with it.

I'm not going to assume you have had it easy, because we don't and I know my experience isn't universal either. Don't feel bad because you still care to some degree, sometimes it is good to be wary. Just try not to be hard on yourself about it.

[โ€“] magi@hexbear.net 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I have not really cared what other people think since my teens.. but it does come usually with age/experience.

I had most of the care beaten out of me enough to have me rise against it. comrade-raccoon

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm already past that point cri

I'm sorry for that.

[โ€“] magi@hexbear.net 5 points 2 months ago

Hopefully once you start hrt and see how things go with you, things will be a bit more known and you'll begin to feel a bit more comfortable and start to grow. Everyone starts somewhere and I don't like saying be patient either, I know what it is like.. but I can say things will get easier.

I know c: