Secondly firstly, E takes forever. You hear about the quicker results because they're exceptional (no one talks about how they took E for 4 years while they were closeted and their wives and children didn't even notice, but it can be a thing). There's the possibility you need more specialized endocrine medical care cause maybe you have some stuff going on that's preventing HRT from doing what it does for most people - maybe your liver is just powerful. And yes, the big long list of initial changes starts to hit by year 2, but everyone's body is different - you might be more around 3, which might suck but feminization is inevitable. Cis womens breasts, for example, take years and years to develop - some isn't finished until their like 25 - so it's not a huge surprise that it takes so long for trans femmes.

I wanna say that a lot of this bad shit you're feeling sounds like dysphoria - being misgendered, hormones not working properly etc. Before I cracked my egg while I was still questioning, I thought I might not be trans cause where's the torment and horrible dysphoria? Well, it came after I started dealing with the fact that I'm a woman, a trans woman, and now those floodgates open - and oh, there's dysphoria. So if you're feeling weird and dysphoric AFTER transitioning and didnt before, it's not a big surprise. Sometimes dysphoria is so complete that it's like a fish swimming in water, and comrade you just got pulled out of the water and now you know it exists and it's all around you. Which is part of why you probably feel like there's no going back - cause there's not if you're trans femme!

And the truth is, it does get better, but there's no timeline and I wish I could give you one so so badly. But you will eventually figure out a way to present that makes your heart sing, and you will find friends that recognize your femininity, and you will get a circle of people that use the right pronouns in your daily life including work, and yeah eventually you'll get curves and skin will be softer etc etc.